plz help...serious answers only plz?

First, seeking attention from other men is not the answer. You and your boyfriend have a child together. If you are mature enough to have sex, get pregnant and become a mother then you need to behave more responsibly. He may have been less prepared for becoming a father than he thought he was. It's not unusual for new parents to not be in sync after the birth of a baby. You are young and want him to make love to you, but it isn't that unusual that he isn't. It may take some time for the 2 of you to be ready to be intimate again. Take your time and don't blow the relationship up over a lack of sex. And don't leave "every" time he isn't interested. That's not healthy for your relationship. If you love him and he loves you, you'll stick with him through this time. You may find in a few months that things have improved. I don't know if you feel like leaving the baby with anyone overnight or even for an afternoon or evening. May be you and he could plan for a romantic interlude while someone else watches the baby for you. Then relax and enjoy. Don't try to force it. Whatever happens happens. Try to make time for the 2 of you once every week or 2, when someone else watches the baby. Soon you and he will regain the closeness you had before. God Bless!

You need to talk to this man and let him know where you stand, First of all you just gave birth to his child. Alot of guys are a little scared of being a parent. Sit down and talk this over with him, was he in the delivery room when you gave birth? How does he act towards the baby? Is he distant from him/her? Any man will be more than happy to give you the kind of attention you seek, but is it love? Will it make you feel better. I don't think so. If you really love this man, try to work it out. If he says he does not want to be with you, tell him he should have thought about that before he commited to having a child with you. Stand your ground, but always remind yourself that a man can come and go , but your child is your child for the rest of your life. Focus on your baby. The rest will fall into place. good luck

Be careful of the drama that seeking attention from another man can cause. We've all seen way too many episodes of Jerry Springer. I don't mean for that to sound rude to you. I just think that you need to find the love for yourself and the little one before you jump into wanting love from another man. Don't worry so much about him, he sounds typical. Remember that right now you are more emotional than you usually would be because of just having the baby. Making big decisions, life changing decisions should probably be put off for a little while. Good Luck

Talk to him. Have a deep and honest conversation with your parter. Try to figure out what's wrong. Explain to him what you feel and let him undersatnd what you're going through. Don't do anything that you might regret in the future. DOn't give up yet. And make sure you also let him know that you are willing to undersatnd him also. Maybe he also has personal issues or problems.So just have a decent and calm conversation. Whatever conclusion yu'll arrive to at least you understood eachother and I'm sure it will be for everyones betterment. Good Luck and God Bless =)

Sit him down and talk to him face to face. Only he can do something about the problem. For a 29 year old to never want sex is highly unusual, and if there's not something wrong medically, he could be cheating on you. Don't cheat on him though, expain the problem to him, and if nothing is done to solve it......leave him. There's alot of decent guys out there that would love you, and your baby. Good Luck!

I would suggest maybe you see a marriage counselor.

You need to both seek professional help.

The symptoms suggest that he is having an affair.

BUT......

I was married and we had just had our first child,the troubles of work, pregnancy and parenthood made us both distant,the same problems as you have described.

My wife thought I was having an affair,I thought she was having an affair.

The truth was that neither of us were.

But we both ended up having affairs.

Now I'm living on my own 1,000's of miles away from my son who I haven't seen for 4 years, I still cry myself to sleep, I miss him and wish I had done something positive to save my marriage and family.

Please don't make the same mistakes I did do something about it now while you both still have a chance.

Children need two loving parents.

Some men will actually get jealous or feel like they are no longer as important to you after you have a baby.The only thing I can suggest is sit down with him and really talk it out ask him if there is something bothering him.If you don't get any straight answers from him suggest counselling, if he refuses to get counselling maybe it's better to walk away and focus on you and our child.

He could be having an affair. Kind of sounds like the symptoms. Go on online chat rooms talk to people in the same situation .. Boards and stuff could be helpful Good Luck

ok-get cleaned up wait til he gets home while hes sitting down and resting from work sit near him and start petting what women have so much of and men none at all-if he doesnt respond rent a bulldozer and bury him hes dead-then move on but i think you might be pleasently surprised

give it a little more time. now that you have the baby that will take most of your time and attention. be a little more patient. if he doesn't come around soon have some serious talks with him. also dressing sexy and all that helps too.