How can I get my 14 month old to sleep by himself??

What a load of bull about having kids too close. Ignore that person please. I have 2 kids that are 22 months aparts and some that are 14 months apart. Your older child will be just fine.

As for sleeping, you might need to let him cry it out if that is something you feel ok with (not everyone does). You can start very small by just letting him cry for a few mins, then a little longer, each time comforting him but not picking him up. In time he will learn he is ok by himself to go to sleep.

I hope this helps a little. :)

while I cannot help you I do want to give you one warning

experts suggest waiting til your first child is 2ys before getting pregant with a second child (so your first is at least almost 3yrs before the second one is born)

obviously too late for this.. but the reason is, the first child is still VERY NEEDY of you but you will be tired and will put the newer kid first in most situtions when it comes to need...

this first kid probably already feels he is being "replaced" and possibly unwanted or unloved so make sure he knows you love him and dont ever say to him "baby needs mommy more" because this is a cruel insult to him...

(I know I was oldest of 4, and hated mom for having every baby she had - to this day I hate babies and have become very aware of why I feel this way) probably if she just had 1 I might not be so messed up, but the 3rd and 4th reinforced that "babies" were more important/loved than older kids who could actually do stuff.. not just cry and poop...

just let him know you still love him very much

it works while you're consistent - attempt to envision a stable bedtime recurring - supply him a bathtub - brush his teeth - placed him on his mattress - study a tale - supply him his trendy filled animal and depart the room do no longer close the door and don't turn off the sunshine - after 10 minutes of crying bypass and reassure him - depart the room lower back - come again after quarter-hour etc - the 0.33 night he would desire to be ok stable success!

Try giving him a t-shirt you've worn so it has your scent, etc and that may help comfort him though he may still cry for a while.

put on some soft music and maybe turn on a tv and get some comcast for it and a couple nity lights will do!