my boyfriend was an addict when we met he got clean now he is on it again, he spends all of my money n hits me

You have to ask us what to do about a man that you allow to hit you... Pardon me, I'm just a little dumbfounded...

I think you should leave him and seek some counseling as to why you have to ask a forum of strangers for advice as to what to do about abuse.

Isn't it obvious?

If you love him you should communicate with him, does he take drugs because he's scared you may leave him? Have you given him any cause for concern? You both seem to have issues with self esteem and escapism, try sharing your thoughts with each other and the worst that can happen is the same in which case make your own mind up and decide what you want, help is available if you want to get out of an abusive relationship but life is never simple.

Please remember when people give advise they always think the worst but what other think is unimportant, how you want to live is the question and being without someone is just as painful as being with someone sometimes.

Xbox games are made to be that way so people play them and buy the online subscriptions and accessories and sequels if you are finding it hard to deal with try asking him if you can play too ask him to show you how he doesn't love the xbox more then you its made to be addictive so he keeps playing and wants more and more but if you play with him instead of getting mad at him or leaving him over an xbox it mite come to. The whole idea of all the graphics and guns and shooting and death is to fill the human need for excitement that one cannot normally get so if you play along you mite just be able to have fun with it too and eventually he'll get bored of the game or he'll notice his neck getting sore or a headache coming on the he should stop because at that point it is acctually unhealthy.

Well if I were you, you should just leave him be. Especially since he's hitting you. If that wasn't the case I'd stay myself to help him quit but I guess there's no turning back now. Just leave him be, and move along. And hey there are many, I mean tons and tons of other guys out there. Especially alot of single and drug free men as well. But hope things get better. But if anything, I'd leave him.

Dont spoil your life with him dear. You are really a nice human being that's why u continued being with him after knowing about his addiction. Get out of this relation and make sure he dont have any of ur contact no. or addresses. U may nt the opinion but it is the only way dear. U have someone nice waiting somewhere for you. All the best.

so much for helping him out the first time. its like a slap in the face, I guess he hits you literally and figurtavily. you need to get out. There is not excuse for hitting you, I don't care how high he is.

do you want to live with that for the rest of your life? always wondreing if he is going to hit or if he is on drugs

It might be hard, because you still may love him, but you might have to break up with him, or at least try to persuade him to go to counseling with you. If he won't, then it will only get worse. You have to dump him then. and you also should call the police and report about the abuse he is giving you.

He may be addicted to drugs but your addicted to him! it doesn't matter what you've been through he's hitting you and that ain't right! He'll try to make you think that its your fault, but it isn't. You need to stop all contact with this person NOW!

Sit him down and talk to him. Try and get him help again. DO NOT give him more money, your supporting his bad habits. If it doesnt work then you need to leave him becasue he's only hurting you.

Dump him.

To be going to the hell of detoxing again, your bf has to be at the lowest of the lowest of possible low points in his life. You dumping him will add to that.

Believe me, it may sound cruel, but dumping him is in his, and much more inportant, YOUR best interest.

Good luck!