Child support? Should I get it, or just move on?

1. Continue with the child support action.

Since you say it was filed "through the state" the only issues at trial should be (1) paternity and (2) the amount of child support. The child support will be retroactive to when the case was filed, and may be retroactive to the date the child was born.

If your ex is still in the military your child support will come out of his pay and the military will send the check directly to you. Your child will also be eligible for all dependent coverage, including medical insurance, medical care through military hospitals, beneficiary of your ex's life insurance, disability pay, death benefits, etc. Talk to a JAG at the base closest to you and find out what these are.

Child visitation will probably not be heard at the trial, the ex would have had to have filed a separate action asking for visitation. Even if he did, or does in the future, he's not goinng to get much, if any, given he's not seen or supported the child in two years.

In the eyes of your daughter your husband is "daddy", she does not need any paper to know that.

At some time, in six or eight years, you can, if you want, inform her that 'daddy' is not her bio father. In ten or sixteen years, or after bio dad is out of the picture (e.g. he's out of the military and you can't find him) your husband can adopt the child.

Of course, seek advice from an attorney who can ask and answer more questions than this posting can.

Talk to your husband if you have not already and see if he is willing to adopt your daughter. Then approach you ex with the Idea. If your husband is willing and the ex is you could be rid of him for good. If he is not willing and has had very little contact go for the child support it may push your ex to give her up. I did it with my 2 boys. My wife's ex was behind on the child support and very rarely saw the boys. It wasn't much and we didn't need the money anyway, what ever we got was all going into their college funds and that is pretty much set now.

You SHOULD go for child support. As a product of a single-parent household (and a soon-to-be military officer), I can tell you that your kid needs the extra that his/her sperm donor owes them! You never know when medical bills (or anything expensive) will need to be paid. The military WILL garnish his paycheck; they don't look very highly upon someone evading child support. Even if you are wealthy and don't need the money, the principle of him not paying will allow him to think that what he did (ditching you and your kid) is OK. Do NOT let him get away with it! Make him pay (literally and figuratively) for his disgusting behavior.

The dead beat should pay child support.You have to contact his commander.The military is very strict about this.If you truly don't want to see him forget it,but remember he can come back anytime and file a petition for visitation.

I'd skip it. If you can support your child on your own, leave him out of the picture. Going for the child support could open up all kinds of problems with custody, visitation, etc.

Good luck.

i guess i would say if he wants to give up his parental rights and not pay, then do it, if he is an sort of man and wants to see his child, work something out that will be good for the child, not the adults.

well mam,the money would not be for you..it is for the child he help you make...you can make him pay for the help in raising the child...does the child know who he is..such as her dad...you would have to talk to a good lawyer so he could make the guy pay up..and it could be in the thousands if he has not given anything since the child was born...i have to pay 560 a month for one child..its really up to you if you persue this...i would if i was you

Then dont go for child support. Easy as pie. You'd just be begging for trouble if you got CS from your kid's dad.

Don't matter, the money is not for you, it is for your child. It is a responsiblity that the father owes

Make him pay it

I agree, if you dont need it, then i would just move on