One way famliy members?

I feel ya...I have a similar problem..I seem to my family's therapist. I am the only person in my family who seems to be able to have a normal well -adjusted marriage so whenever anyone else has problems with their loves lives, they always call me for help. I know that when I don't hear from them for 3 or 4 months then everything is going great! Frustrating I know. My suggestion is either A) deal with the fact that they are using you and try to use them in return for whatever they are useful for B) get caller ID and become suddenly unavailable or C) tell them all to take a long walk off a short pier..there is more to you than your brawn!! Now..that being said I have 2 questions for YOU..

1) would they ask for your help if you were just large and not large AND hairy?

2) I have this bookshelf I need someone to move..can ya help me out????? hheehee

:-)))

I am sorry, I kinda feel that way too sometimes. When someone is hungry, I'll be there. When someone is throwing up, I'll be there. When someone is crying over their ex boy friend, I'll be there. Kinda gets to the point where it is like, what if I need anything? Ya know? Then I feel like I am on my own. But you know what? I like being the "strong" one. The one that people come to for things. It gives me a purpose and a reason for being. Have you called them when you need things or do you feel that you are the one that has to be strong so it is difficult to ask others to help? I wish I could give you a hug because I really can relate. Hang in there and know that you are not alone. *hugs* :)

Tom, there's a vacant house next door to me that's got your name ALLLLL over it!! :) ok okkkkkkk .. all kidding aside, I'm sorry you're being taken advantage of. Start saying NO when you really don't feel like doing what they ask. To help is always a good thing for you and the folks you help but they've crossed that line. If some negative remarks come from that, tell them you owe them a few more NO's to even the score. It's ok to say no to family. Really. They'll get over it, and maybe HIRE a handyman next time they need something done!

My dad is an fool who can never do something perfect. ever. My mom is alright. nevertheless she is a splash bit an ice queen and he or she like jesus a splash too plenty My brother hates me and not talks to me ever. My a million/2 sister is a inebriated and he or she never graduated intense college My extened family contributors on my mom edge is definitely republican and that i'm getting the sensation that i'm no longer needed/welcomed around maximum of them. nevertheless they are well mannered. My dad's family contributors is kinda loopy and that they are variety advise, humorous yet advise. they are additionally variety of large selfish so yeah. now and back i ask your self how i manged to stay this universal and point headed.

would you let a non family member treat you like that? probably not. you can learn to say no, learn to charge for services, or just move 1800 miles away from the irritating one way family members.... i tried the first 2 ideas. the last one worked the best!

You get caller ID. If you can see who it is and you already know what they want then just save yourself the hassle. OR when they call to ask you to help with something say "I was just planning to call you, I need help painting the den. How about you come help me with the den this afternoon and I'll help you do whatever tomorrow afternoon?"

Do you actually ask for their help when you need it? I'm sure they wouldn't turn down helping you if you asked. Otherwise just remind them the next time they ask for help that they didn't help when you asked them. maybe you have to open their eyes alittle and take heart that you are a good man and willing to help your family out and they aren't.

u cant help it that is waht famliy is for anyway next time if u need help frist go ask them if they r free and tell them i have apry and when they come to your home so u tel them ooo i forgot pary next week this wek i have this work do it for me hahhaha hope this wil help u out

Tell them how you feel about it and if they dont understand your point of you then let them deal with something own their own and if they ask you for help dont be around aswell.i am sure that will make them realize.

Sit everyone down and tell them how you feel.Tell them you are feeling used.If that dont help, get on with your life and forget about it.Family always comes first.