How do you say Happy Mother's Day to some one who should not be having a baby?

sometimes, you have to grin and bear it... either way, the girl, and her daugher are your family... no matter if it was a ex-con or nicholas cage who got her pregnant. She may be a bad mother, but everyone can change, look at it as encouragment. Im sure there are a ton of women out there who wouldda gave up if it wasn't for a kind word here and there about them doing a good job, or happy mothers day. You may be able to open it up as a window into being able to talk to her more later about it and getting her more involved with your great neice and nephews lives.

Good Luck

If you want to be nice/nasty you constantly point out what good mothers your mom and sister are. "Wow, sis, it is so good of you to support your daughter and her children!" or if you just want to maybe open your niece's eyes a little, mention that motherhood is always what is best for the baby~~if your sister is raising her first child, that is for the best obviously. You should tell her she was mature in realizing she couldn't handle being a mother at that time. To avoid any stress, I would advise saying a general "Happy Mothers Day to all the mothers!" You can add a more personal wish to each individual, except the niece, without everyone else noticing. If your sister doesn't mind raising her grandchildren, well, that's what matters.

I take it you have been a perfect mother yourself. While your niece may be a bad mother and should not in fact have another child, it was and is not your decision to make, and it would be better if you were to offer to help than to criticize. I'm sure your sister could use that as a mother's day gift for her. And I doubt that your mother would like to see her day soured by your attitude. And her greatgrandchildren certainly need all the help and good will they can get.

Tell your sister what you just told us. She might be so supportive of her daughter because she doesn't want to lose her or have her run off with her ex-con boyfriend. Share your worries and you'll probably find she shares them too. The way your sister is acting towards her daughter is not helathy right now. Yes, the birth of a child is a miracle, but when she already made this mistake once and your sister supported her with no complaints, it's like saying "it's okay to have a baby with your bum of a boyfriend because I'll take care of everything," SO your neice did it again. Your sister needs to be supportive, yet FIRM with your neice. let her know it's not okay. Make her share the burden. Make her get a job. Forbid her to have sex with ex cons. Set boundaries. May God be with you.

Wish your sister and your mom a happy mother's day - after all, you sister is the one doing the mothering.... Stay out of their drama. It's unfortunate that she's making poor choices for herself, but that's not your business. Be thankful she's not your daughter.

man that's a hard life to live but a mother is a mother and all mothers should be wished a happy one but I would talk to your sister sense it sounds like she will end up taken care of him/her. have a heart to heart talk with your family and be open and honest let them know how you feel and why its not right maybe just maybe she will see the wrong she has put on the family sense it seems like she knows there is always going to be someone to bail her out its hard on everyone

Don't say anything. Focus on YOUR mother, after all, she is the one you are going to honor.

Mother's Day really was intended as a day for you to honor your own mother, not every woman you know that has ever given birth.

i would not say "happy mothers' day" because she is not a mother. she is a incubator. i know one like this (her twins are screaming in my living room right now.) i will not ever say that to her. if they comment on the over site you have 2 choices, say it (while making it known you don't mean it) or laugh and say 'she's not my mom'. just say HMD to YOUR mom,not the sister,not the niece. just know the next kid down the line will not be in your house.

You say: "Congratz...Happy Mothers Day...I am sure you can do any thing if you put your mind to it and knuckle down...It must feel wonderfull to have given life to another being that is part of you..." (basically just let her know what a great responsibility it is and show faith even if it isn't genuine)

It's not your decision to make. Every mother and mother-to-be should be wished a happy Mother's Day.