Would you stay or leave?

This guy has been honest with her and he has done this because he is ashamed of what he did, he loves her, and he wants to have an honest relationship with her. He didn't have to tell her, most men wouldn't have had the courage. I think it is a sign of how much he really loves your friend. He was probably upset while your friend was away and feeling unsure of his feelings and unsure of her feelings. I would imagine he may have been worried that she was doing the same thing so he made a mistake. We all make mistakes. He regrets it and has learned from it. I admire this guy. I think your friend would be a fool not to give him a second chance. Honest men don't come around too often.x I just also would like to add that all these guys who say leave have probably done something similar in their lives too but I bet they didn't have the courage to admit it to the girl at the time.x

There are some unanswered questions that may help to pick a direction. Had they really both agreed that they would not see other people (sometimes a girl is committed and expects the guy to be committed simply because she is). Was it an ex-girlfriend or just some chick? How did this conversation come up between them in the first place (why would he tell her about this after 2 years!)?

If the one night was at the beginning of a mutally decided exclusive relationship, it is cheating and your friend should address this and the future (not necessarily the end) of the relationship with him ASAP. Some people are able to forgive and move on--especially when not married-- and some cannot. If it was an ex-girlfriend, one time and there are no other signs that he is cheating now, she may need to decide if it is really something she cannot live with as a part of his past. If it was just some chick, his indiscretion is noteworthy, but is it something she cannot live with as a part of his past as long as it doesn't happen again?

OK, lets toss the coin since I'm a guy. if i was 'seeing' someone prior to actual commitment, there would still be an unsaid understanding that though we are not official, an acknowledgement has taken place between us.

if i left town for a weekend during our 'seeing' phase and she decided to jump beds with an other, i still think that is cheating. it is by no means as bad if it took place when the relationship was in full speed, but it never less is something not admirable to know of your partner. i mean, geez, she slept with someone while i went away for a week! it doesn't indicate a genuine interest in me or a sincerity of affection on her part.

in life there will always be shades of grey to everything and anything but cheating falls short of meeting this requirement. it is cheating in cold dark black and white.

i think that since it was a mistake and the relationship has been going for two years, what reason(s) would be gained by sharing this info with your partner? if a girl really loved me and honestly thought it wasn't cheating, then don't tell me after almost two years. that info does no good to me or to our relationship and will only bring distance between both parties.

i must wonder why he chose to say this only now? i think it's because he knows he did something wrong and is feeling the wrath of guilt! or maybe he is just insensitive? hmmm...

Its really up to her on how she feel, because its something that happened in the past and its hard to make a judgment on it.

It also depend on how much feeling she has for him, and is she willing to forgive him. I would say if they have a good relationship and he's always good to her, she may want to overlook this incident for the relationship to continue. But its a good to make sure nothing like this will never, ever happen in the future.

However if he's not treating her well over the years and she found out this while through yelling and fighting, then I would say dump the guy and never look back.

Also you should see if her boyfriend is regrettable about what he did to your friend. Does he repent his action or he just bought it up and feels like nothing. That should be another factor to consider as well.

If there is no other indication that he cheated on his current girlfriend, she should keep him. Maybe he was just searching for the right woman and found her with his current. Even if she doesn't forget about it it was before her relationship started with him. So what everyone is saying that this guy should never be given another chance by any other woman in the world. People do change.

Well I wouldn't leave him because after investing almost two years in the relationship that should be my deciding factor. What should make her want to leave is can she trust him NOW and does she love him to forgive for something he did when they just got to gather. Is it cheating YES! because the relationship was there, but he wasn't committed as she was at the time it would seem.

leave...the relationship started out with a lie at thats not a good thing. Im wondering why the discussion came up could he possibly be up to something again? Just make sure to be there for your friend regardless of what decision she makes.

Did this guy know they were in a 'committed' relationship?? Sounds to me like he thought they were just kickin it and she thought they were 'committed'

Happens all the time, girls and some guys take things way too serious way too fast.

She should stay unless she catches him cheating again.

She should stay. If she leave is she going to be happy? No, it isnt really cheating since it was so early in the relationship. Leave the past in the past and they should move forward in the relationship.

I would not be able to stay knowing that. He obviously was a cheater and still might be. Doesn't matter if he confesses later on. He still did it...now he should deal with the consequences. Why should he be with someone that would never cheat on him, but he can cheat on her?