Men, I do not understand what he wants. Any suggestions?

Hmmmm..... Well lets just put it simple for ya... Us guys we are dumb. We dont say things we should and say things we shouldn't. We are not good at talking or expressing our feelings at least not openly.

This guy probably likes you or at least did... He probably would like to have an exclusive relationship with you but is afraid of a relationship. possiably because he has been burned in the past. or is a little leary of how you first hooked up. which getting drunk and makeing out with someone else in front of him definatly wouldnt help.

when he backed off he probably wanted to see where you would go, would you want to continue a relationship with him not based on sex or would you move on... you obviously moved on. or at least to him you did. by him getting angry about it I would have to say that he was hopeing that you would'nt just move on to the next drunken fling and that hurt him. Guys tend to lash out with angry hurtful things instead of saying what they are feeling... again not good at expressing feelings.

you have me confused... so you are telling me you got drunk had a fling with a guy and became friends... and you got drunk again and met a new guy now and you kissed the new guy but the other friend got jealous... seems to me that you need to stop drinking before you end up catching something you can't get rid of... or end up somewhere you may regret... you being a female you need to be very careful.. and as for the jealous friend, he's just being a man.... a man is very territorial.... they want a female to themselves rather it's love or sex...

Ditch him, He is the confused one. To much drunkeness, and there is no excuse for lots of insulting comments. This is not what you want in a relationship. Courtship is a time to discover these things. You know now. Move on.

I'm not a man.. but why not listen do your own feelings? what do YOU want?we all have our own ways sometimes extremely mixed up when it comes to relationships ore commitments, sometimes it takes time to get clear in the intentions, many different choices and parts of self wanting different things even if there is a little part that is in love. Tell him what you want what your intention is with the relationship and be honest to yourself and him.Don't expect him to change, for you to get what you want ore feel better about it. Change it yourself.

I think you both need to sit down when the two of you are SOBER and truly evaluate your situation because alcohol can skew not only ones perception of something but it's relevance as well. You two may be acting on the aura of the alcohol and not feelings at all. drinking tends to make some people including myself more sexually aroused but i recognize this in myself so i know how to deal with it. talk it over with him, Good Luck with it.

It may simply be that he is unsure of what he wants in your relationship. You might consider asking him to elaborate on why he just want's to be friends, then think about it for a few days. If his explanation doesn't match what you want from the relationship, then it may need to be cooled off. And don't forget that alcohol makes things difficult too.

Just a suggestion: communication is a lot clearer when you're not drinking.

He's being territorial but doesn't want commitment. The old "have your cake and eat it too." When I was young I had a harem -- all in my fantasy, of course, but it shows you where the male mind can go.

He is in the dark with himself. You can dig him out by telling him he is sending mixed signals. Tell him it is either yes, he wants you or no he doesn't. (if you like him you can add that info)

Tell him you want a relationship that he decides while sober and an answer that will stick when he is drinking.

There is a thing called pride and bruised ego...He marked you as "his" territory and didn't like to see you with another man. Sorry, men would never admit that you are more than just friends--they expect you to figure that one out.

The best thing to do in this situation is ignore him! If he wants to act like a child (meaning he wants to like you but doesn't want to tell you) let him. Move on and meet someone who is on your level.