My 19 yr old son and his g/f r living w/ me. not paying rent etc. am i mean to think of evicting them??

You are not being unreasonable at all. I suggest you speak to your son and his girlfriend again to make it clear what you expect of them. That is:

They will pay you rent

They will pay for the cable

They will clean up after themselves (because you are not their slave and they are old enough to help out)

They will contribute to the running of the house by doing chores

If they don't work, they will get jobs

Give them a date by which to sort themselves out. Make it clear that you expect back rent and back cable payments. So $200 a month rent from when your son agreed to pay till now plus $120 a month for cable less the $30 he has already paid. Give them a written contract which spells out what they owe plus what they must pay from now on on a monthly basis and make them both sign it as a condition of staying. Also make it clear what the penalty will be if they don't do this - they will have to leave. And tell them you are cutting off the cable until they start paying for it.

If your son or his girlfriend don't like it, again, show them the door and tell them to go into the big wide world and see just how far they get with accommodation, food and utilities plus cable on a measly $320 a month.

You are not mean at all. Start by kicking his girlfriend out, and give him a pay-and-clean ultimatum. If he doesn't stick by it, ask him to leave. It will be sad, but if he can't stick to some basic rules and just wants all the advantages, there's no deal.

Boot them!!!!! Mom, sometimes you are not helping by helping if you know what I mean.. sometimes by helping we are really hindering our kids from growing up.. you had an agreement he hasnt kept it..boot his butt out.. if he were "on the outside" doing this with a landlord would he still be there??? Cmon help him and his g/f with a reality check

Kick the free loaders out! No one can take advantage of you without your permission, so stop being a doormat.

evict them. it's time for your son to grow up and not depend on you. He's old enough to fend for himself. If he can afford to have a GF then he should be able to afford to support himself and his GF.

Boot them.

kick him out. and then take him to small claims court. youll win... trust me. :) judge judy rocks!