Isn't it sad?

I agree!!! And then everyone wants to know how the world became so messed up! Everyone is out for only themselves and what they want right at the moment instead of thinking what their actions cause in the environment around them.They don't think of the people they are hurting.Very selfish I think!!

Well, the grass is always greener. But at the same time, you need to understand that people here who are married and asking advice...maybe their relationship has gone bad for whatever reasons (and there are plenty of reasons) and it's difficult to remove yourself from that bad stuff. People in general just want to be happy is all. It's not that everyone is unhappy but a lot are. Doesn't mean there's something wrong with "them" necessarily. They may and very well could have been hurt by their significant other. You don't know the entire background. I'll ask a couple questions and you may find the answers.

The American way of life is that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, and it doesn't help to have a media that promotes divorce, cheating and lifestyle choices that are just plain confusing or too difficult to manage in reality. Marriage is not supposed to be some trial basis relationship, it has so many aspects and difficulties, but seriously, if you ask me, Americans as a whole are too selfish to be married for any length of time, and it is only getting worse.

Communication.

We all crave it, but it seems the closer we are the less we get.

On line is the most distant.

We can ask questions about anything that we think about without the chance of "real" rejection. Yes we can get flamed on here for stating something but we don't lose a real person in our life, we don't have a spouse pissed at our thoughts, we don't have a parent or sibling looking at us as if we are from a totally different country and family.

We can ask here, judge a reaction and maybe, just maybe talk to our partners in real life with a hope at understanding before hand what their reaction might be.

We want communication to fill our lives, we want acceptance of who we are and how we think.....but we also want safety in our real life partners.

People rush in and out of relationships that they may or may not be happy in. Some are just looking for justification to cheat .. others are holding on by their fingernails. It is all about timing ... either you are where you should be or you are not ... some folks just aren't sure they like the boat that they are in. Jumping overboard is always an option ... and bailing with a teaspoon is an option also ... doesn't make either of those solutions correct. Band-aids are for boo boos ... and these aren't just knicks and dings ... unfortunately these are major wrecks. Search inside for answers ... and they will find the answers or not ... the price of asking other people about their problems !

Not all single people here are trying to find love, but the ones who are are looking in the wrong place, imo. And not all married people are asking if it's okay to chaet, while some are others are just trying to find was to rekindle a flame. Also, not all people who are married are married to someone they truly love. It isn't ever a good idea to make generalizations, but I see your point. Best wishes

Don't know!!! I am very happy!!! I have been married for 5 years we have a beautiful son who is almost 3 and we have a baby on the way! I have only been with my huband! We made love for the first time on our wedding night!

I think the problem is that too many people are having sex out of wedlock!!!

it's true, but doesn't happen to everyone. I think when one thinks only of himself or being selfish, thats when crap happens. sometimes we take advandtage and ungreatful for what we have. Sometimes to some people, it is never enough and they will never be satisfy. Because they're unhappy, they go out and try to find ways to satisfy themselves. Always want more. not thinking about the person that they're with, is hurting by their actions. sometimes, some people find the the love of their life and stay true and commited to them. its hard to know what everybody is going through with their marriage because its their business. but its up to a couple if they want to work together when problem arises or just go out and cheat with other people. it all depends on each individual how they handle things and if they really love and care for the person they're with, they'll try and make it work. yes, it is very sad but everyone have a free agency to choose what to do with their life and you and me have no control over that. happiness all depends on the choices in make in life.

I am single, not dating anyone, and I am happy. I can do what I want, don't have to answer to anyone, am free to make my own mistakes without having to consider someone else, and I don't have to do the dishes/laundry/cleaning if I don't want to. If I want to spend money on something, I only have myself to worry about.

I'm not saying I wouldn't get into a relationship if the right person came along, but I like my life the way it is. Not everybody is messed up out "here".

I am happy.

I am married, never been happier. Before I was married I wasn't desperate.

The world spends too much time watching Television thinking the world should be like Paris Hilton, Desperate Housewives or Sex in the City...

People are idiots... let the idiots be unhappy.

Let the smart people live their lives.

The best place for your television is the trash.