I really like having sex but when I try to with my girlfriend?

maybe she feels pressured. take your time. make sure she knows that the foreplay you have doesn't always have to lead to sex. get to the root of why she's not enjoying it. you have to treat the problem, not the symptoms. think of her like a car... it doesn't want to start, and every time you try it makes some awful noises. you could either get inside and push it, or find out what the hell is wrong. im sure both of you would appreciate it when the acutal problem is fixed.

Oh crap, aren't you in a pickle?

First off, my own personal opinion, I HATE, HATE, HATE when girls use sex as a bargaining chip, a reason for anger, cause for an argument. They like to have sex just as much as us men, women are just more PC, or more "eloquent" about going about getting it.

I don't think anyone should ever be in a relationship where they fear sex. And I don't think anyone should be in a relationship where the woman (in most cases, sometimes men) hold sex over their head like it's a privelege. I understand, women, that it IS a "privelege" to let us men inside you. But to punish, discipline, or whatever, a man because he wants to have sex with the woman he loves?!?! Wha?!?!?!

To be honest, just because of my experiences, I wouldn't stand for it. I would put my foot down next time she gets mad at me, and explain to her that sex is not based on her beck-and-call, it SHOULD be completely mutual. Sometimes she doesn't want to, sometimes I don't want to. But never, ever would I get mad at her if I didn't want to! I would just schedule a rain check!

I'd venture to guess that she has someone on the side. Just a guess, I could be way off-but if she's like ANY of the girls that I have dated that have been the same way, then there's your answer.

Dude get used to it, that is just the way women operate. I have been married 17 years and the only real thing I have learned is, when she wants it give it to her, when u want it, make a small effort then let it go. Turn on ESPN and place the cold beer btwn ur legs.

Zultan's answer had me crying with laughter lol. That is so something all my guy friends would say. It is so not true. A woman needs to feel sensuality and aroused first, like a little nibble here and there with a body rub down wouldn't hurt. And I'm married too!

sounds like she is holding out for a real man, I don't want to make her mad, but you don't care if she pis*ses you off.

that wuss speak, make the bit*ch mad, make up sex is the best , Grud*ge fu*ck her , she is gonna get tired of waiting for you to grow a spine and go in search for some monkey sex. sex should never be a weapon, if she uses it that way, she is a sick fu*ck and should do without . cut her loose and let her put that thing on the open market and see how much action she gets. pansies kill me.

You should start dating boys because that's the only way to avoid your situation... Every woman is the way you describe your girlfriend... We get it when we want it... You just keep begging and waiting... Get used to it.

Find a new girlfriend. Nothing wrong with either of you, but the two of you have different needs and desires. Find someone who whats what you do. That is why it is called dating.

Keep the romance. Do things for her because you love her. Bring her flowers. Whenever she says she needs to do something, do it for her. Do something totally for her that is unexpected.

Once you keep the romance going, when you want to show her your love, she won't turn you down.

Leave her....sounds like your p-ussy whipped to me....grow a set and tell her that when she feels like it is not the ONLY time in a relationship that there is YOUR pleasure here at stake too.

To me she is not interested in you or she is getting tired of your sex. The only time that she wants is when she WANTS it