I really love my bf, but he keeps pressuring me to have sex with him.How do I say no without him hating me?

Guys wanting to have sex is the norm. It's pretty easy for a guy's drive to kick in, even if he doesn't want it to. But that's just part of life, and most guys learn how to deal with it.

One thing that bothers me about your bf is not his drive, but that he refuses to talk to you for a few days when you tell him no. At best, it's just sulking; at worst, it's passive revenge. Whichever it is, it's not good for your relationship, and I expect the same behavior to show up in other situations where you disappoint him.

And of course, it really bothers me that he took advantage of your time alone to force himself on you, and that you had a hard time stopping him.

Is he much older than you? You're still in school; I guess he's not? The further apart you are in the age, the more likely it is that he's dating you because he feels you would be a little less threatening and a little easier to dominate than someone his own age.

In any case, you are acting much more maturely than he is right now: You know what is right for you, but you still care about the guy and don't like hurting his feelings, and even now would like to help him. That loyalty is a wonderful thing, but it also makes you very vulnerable to someone who doesn't care as much about you as you him.

From a practical standpoint, some of the best advice I've heard is that, if a girl wants a real commitment out of a guy, the last thing she should do is have sex with him.

A guy who is willing to be committed to you as a person, without sex, is trustworthy enough for you to marry and then have sex with. There is far less chance he'll ever leave you, because he's already shown commitment when things weren't going his way. It's clear that such a guy sees you as more than just a sex object.

I think it's great you love the guy and have been seeing him for six months. From your story, though, I'm not sure he loves you as much as you love him. He might just be a mixed bag of emotions (i.e., cares about you, but also wants sex, and he's confused and doesn't know how to deal), or he could just be very selfish and mostly interested in sex.

He's hung with you for six months, which is a long time for guy who just wants sex. Still, he's becoming very demanding and almost threatening.

If he persists any more in disrespecting you and what you feel is best (and I think you're dead-on with waiting until you're married), I'd have to tell you to break it off with him.

Despite the fact that you care about him, he can't handle himself in the relationship, he needs the space to get a grip on himself and why he's still with you, and you're going to get hurt at least emotionally and perhaps worse, if you stay.

say "If you love me, you will wait." It's true, so if he keeps bothering you about it, get another bf. It really bothers me that he wouldn't stop.

You go girl! Keep those standards... you'll be really glad you did. Emotionally and physically (No STD or pregnancy worries).

If I were you, I would make sure that you are in a public place. And if you tell him no, stop kissing him and push him away. Make sure that you are seperated so that he gets the idea. Stick to those guns! You are smart and intelligent and obviously sexy. When Mr. Right comes along and you walk down the aisle, you will thank youself!

Shouldn't do anything because someone else wants you to.

Keep in mind that relationships can be progressive. Your BF is pressuring you ..because he still sees more to ground to explore (so to speak). Progressive behavior is... I hold your hand... then I put my arm around you...Once I achieve the arm around you... then I stop holding you hands as much.. same for having sex... right now.. lots of foreplay.. kissing and hugging.... after you have sex with a progressive behavior person.. The Hugs start becoming less and less... kissing is less and less... soon the relationship becomes boring for him.. and he moves to find more land to discover..(if you get my drift).. Don't do it.... do what's right in your heart and not what's hard in his pants...

If he hates you because you say no, if he cheats because he isn't getting it from you, or if he trays to intimidate you or make you feel bad about yourself because you will not sleep with him, then he is not in love with you and not deserving of your bed. He sounds like a friggin date rapist type. Let him go and find someone who shares your values. I had sex before marriage, but only with those who I felt a connection with. Any boy (yes, they are boys) who pressures you is not ready for the type of relationship you need to have before having sex.

It is your body hun, you draw the line. Sex before marriage is a really bad thing and you will have to live with the consequences. Tell your boyfriend that you want more in a realtionship than sex. If he still insists on it hun then you shoud be through w/ him. Hes a jerk if he cant respect your body and your morales. Even tho you might like him alot, it sounds like he only wants to get in your pants. good luck!

I hate to say this but if he really loved or even respected you, he would wait. If he doesn't respect your decision than he doesn't respect you and you need to find someone who does. Congrats by the way on your wonderful moral values. They're aren't enough people like you left and I pray my children will grow up to feel the same as you do about pre-marital sex. Good luck.

I think you know what to do. Sometimes love is blind. He does not respect you at all!!!! Wake up!! If he truly loved you he would understand your position on this. Run very quickly, you are still young and will find other guys to date. You do have a good head on you're shoulders to know not to have sex yet until you are married and finished school.

If he really loved you and respected you as a person and not a sex object he would respect your decision not to want to have sex until you are both mature enough to handle it, talk to him and tell him how you are feeling about the situation. If he still insists you consemate the relationship you know he isn't the right one for you.

I agree with you it is better to have sex after your married. because it's more special and your wtih the person that you will spend the rest of your life with. He should respect you and honor that you don't want to have sex yet, you have so much a head of you don't let him pressure you into something that you are not ready for.

HOLD ON, all the guy wants to do is show his affection for you physically. Is that so bad? You don't have to have intercourse with him, there are other safe ways to please a guy and girl. Anyways most guys don't want to get married to a girl/woman that has no sexual history. He is always going to think that you missed out on something, and want to leave to explore your sexuality.I would think that you didn't care and were just pulling me along for a ride and telling your friends how ya got me wrapped around your finger.