mother keep support child lives with dad, no lawyer KNOW WHAT? Mom says over her dead body he gets her money!?

K, you are going to have to bite the bullet, get a lawyer, explain the problem, and tell him, to sue for his legal fees and the custody change, and for child support, including back support and the return of support he paid when he shouldn't have been paying. Agree with the atty that you will pay him when it's over, someway, somehow. If he gets the child support stopped, you can start paying him same amount (I know you need it, but you got to do this) or when she pays up (not likely) pay him out of it. Once a amount is awarded, give her the 90 days to pay, then turn over debt to a collection agency. You can do this, it's just scary at first. Been here, done this, got the t-shirt.

Well, sometimes, and I know from experience, the thing is that the fathers are sometimes just not suitable. Plain and simple. But other times, I know from experience too, it's just that the mothers don't care about the father whatsoever, even when it means the well-being of the child. They see him as an outsider and don't even want him near the child. Their mindset is, Well, if he was such a crummy husband, too bad! I'm glad that my mother sees what a great dad mine is. I spend equal time with them and I never go more than three days without seeing either one of them. She says that just because the marriage didn't work out, doesn't mean that she has to take my dad away from me. She appreciates what a good dad he has been to me and so do I! So it's not all moms that are like that. :)

you know what? she is probably right. What does the divorce decree say? THE DIVORCE DECREE HAS THE FINAL WORD!!!!

YOU have to change it before it changes. Doesn't matter if your son lives in a Holiday Inn. The Court says: YOU pay HER.

Sorry. I know you didn't want to hear that. but.....

It will take a Lawyer and a small miracle to get it back.

Good Luck.

I'm afraid the court is the only way out of this one, but you may be able to do it without a lawyer do some research on line at your local court house....

I am not a lawyer and do not know where you live a suggestion would be to contact a legal aid agency should be one in your area also contact social services for info regarding your situation. just suggestions that may help

NO NO NO , she needs a good long spanking. Stop the money now you need it because he lives with you. she should be giving it back to the child. I have two kids living with me from my first marriage and , I split their money between the two of them and it goes into an ira account for school. AND THEY LIVE WITH ME . I don't use their money . It's bs.

tell the dad to go to child support office him and the son. Tell them the story and they'll tell you what you need to do. They will offer a public defender for the case. take the public defender. The'll do a good job

Being that most women are in the marriage for the money in divorce anyway, make it like Burger King, but be careful what you ask for or conditions you set.

Please report her. YOu can get legal aid if you can't afford a lawyer. People like that abuse the system and it not fair for those of us who don't and live by the rules.

take her back to child support court and she will not get a red penny after they find she doesn't have the child