what should i do when i know my fiancee is not his mothers favorite?

Rejoice.

Now you are the only woman with any real influence over him. Use your evil power for good.

U marrying him not his family and saying your future husband is a deadbeat just like his father, u have a problem.

U r suppose to love and support him. Dont say anything, it hasnt got anything to do with u. The day they say something about u, then u go ahead.

So what if his mother has that seeing, the important thing is what u and him think of what he and u r doing?

sounds like he has a lot of mommy issues. u need to stay out of it. do not get involved. if he is like his dead beat father i would dump him. do u want him to be like this iwth your kids. i am sure u have enough going on with u in ur life rather then have to make up to some guy the fact that mommy didn't love him. truth hurts but why add more drama in ur life.

Well, if you really want to approach his mother about it, it's all in HOW you do it. I would approach her in a very casual but sincere way, tell her that it's your husband's opinion that she's harder on him than his brother, tell her its your husband that feels hurt and discouraged and would love it if she were as gentle with him as her other son. Mention to her that you husband was expressing himself to you about it all recently and is not sure how to approach her so you thought you would break the ice for him.

If you use that angle I believe that she'll be much more receptive to it and you may just be on to smoothing things out with them.

Good luck...

Exactly, ignore it. It's very hard because you love him and it hurts to see his own mother treat him this way. I lived this. I tried to intervene and it didn't work. I realized she was a woman with a cold heart and there was nothing I could do but love my husband and tell him how proud I was of his accomplishments every chance I got. Of course, don't bring it up to him (how his mother treats him). He knows and it's so hurtful.

well you have nothing to do with it at all,,,all you can do is you have to show your full moral support to your fiancee showing him that whatever happens you will always be there in his ups and downs of life and you will never leave him for nothing,,,in that way you can make your bf happy and you can build up hi confidence too.

Does your fiancee know that he is not his mothers favorite, becuse if he does then thats another issue...

I'm sure he is already aware of the comparisons, otherwise I would keep mum on the word.