live together, or get married right away?

Living together to test the water is ok, but just make sure its not open ended! Set a date for the wedding within say 6 months (you should know by then if your compatible). If its not working by the end of that period its not going to work at all and you may as well accept the fact. If it is then go ahead with the wedding. Marriage is proven to be a better and healthier state to be in for long term happiness.

Armed Forces may complicate things, but...

I've always said you should live together at least a year before getting married. It cuts down a bit on the symbolism of getting married (because really, what changes besides a name) but you get to know that person as well as you can before you legally become bound to that person.

If you live together and find out you're not compatible, it's easier to just move out. If you're married, you need to get a divorce, divide all assets, etc. It can get messy.

Besides, if you love each other, living together can be like a spiritual marriage. You can still do a small ceremony with family and friends; it just wouldn't be legal in the eyes of the law.

I've been married twice, both times I was in the Army. The first one, we did NOT live together before hand. That ended in a divorce when she moved in with someone else while I was overseas. (I sent her home because she wanted to go).

I married my second wife after living together for awhile, and we have been married for 19 wonderful years. It was difficult at times, but I expect all marriages can say the same.

You have to decide. For us, living together worked. It gave us a chance to "test the water", by seeing if we were compatible. Just because you share the same interests does NOT mean that you can live together.

Good luck

I personally don't recommend living together. I've been there, and all that came from it was the guy got "comfortable" and just took what he got, never made another step forward. I'm not saying that always happens, it's just not something I would do again.

This is something you really need to decide for yourself and talk over with him. You'll know what's best after talking it over and looking at all the sides to it.

Good Luck :)

Get a house first you need a place where you two can live and support each other daily if you get married first where to go when you to are married get a place first it is better

What your mothers and fathers think of is irrelevant. you are the only in the relationship, no longer them. as nicely, i'm style of baffled at their concept that that's better in case you men marry in the past residing mutually, pondering you have already had a infant mutually. the pony is out of the barn at this factor. to respond to your question: My now-husband and that i've got been given engaged jointly as residing in separate residences, and that i moved into his condo approximately 3 months later so shall we save funds for the marriage and a down charge on a destiny residing house. My mothers and fathers have been old-college and in no way somewhat enjoyed the assumption of an single couple residing mutually, yet when I introduced that i became into shifting in with him they only stated, "ok." We have been married some 12 months after our engagement and persevered to stay in the comparable condo for yet another 18 months till we offered a house in yet another city. i've got had different acquaintances with efficient marriages who moved into an condo mutually and did no longer get engaged till years later. Others have been given engaged and lived in separate residences till they offered a house mutually and moved in mutually, and then have been given married a 12 months after that. that's not important what others have achieved. Do what you sense is proper on your concern, and specially, what's ultimate on your infant.

My dad always says it better to get marryed-he thinks that when you live together and your not marryed then its harder to stay together.

Hope this helps>3

live together until you feel it's the right time to get married. But if you guys have been together long enough, and yeah!! GO GET MARRIED TOMORROW!!!!!:D

live together for awhile and see how it goes before you jump into marriage since you don't want to make a mistake that you might regret.

there are a lot of benefits to being married in the military - he'll get a housing allowance and you get free medical care. and if he gets stationed somewhere else you get to move with him.