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Is it ok to have feelings for someone and still be married?

I am married and still have strong feelings for this guy. I feel like he was the one that got away. Is that normal? I feel like he is my soul mate. Please help!!

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  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago
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    Everyone remembers the One. You got married to someone eals so im sure that you love him too. the heart is a crule thing it has no limmit on the amount of love it has. the heart always makes more. So yes it is verry easy to love two people. You have to decide if your marrige is worth keeping. If it is then dont worry about the strong feeling for the other man. It will be hard but it will get better.

  • 2 decades ago

    No not really. You have to put your feelings in check. You need to find out what feelings you have and make things right in your relationship with your husband. Infidelity, cheating, falling out of love, lack of communcation, needs not being met, etc,

    STOP. If you value your oath and value your marriage. You need to talk to your husband on neutral ground or get some help.

    I know people who started off this way, and had an affair, divorce and the kids got caught up in it.

    I am sure everyone might become tempted and always may see somone who appears to be better. You don't realize what you have until you lose it. But, if you are in a dead marriage with no desire from either of you go you should go to counseling before throwing in the towel .GOOD LUCK

  • 2 decades ago

    well... that is a hard question it could be a crush which pretty normal but if you feel like he is youre soulmate and your husband is not you should do something about it. is this other man in the same place as you does he feel the same way. if you must i would follow your heart and see to which it takes you. but if you need to be with this other man DONT CHEAT seperate or divorce before you make any big moves or steps in this realtionship i'm sure you love your husband and you dont want to hurt him so i would just follow your heart but be respectful to both of these men.

  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago

    Temptation comes along all the time - especially when your married. You need to leave this guy alone and concentrate on your husband and your marriage. You took vows with your husband and you owe it to yourself and your marriage to be faithful and true to your spouse.

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  • 2 decades ago

    Things happen for a reason. We might not understand the reason as to why things are happening, but if it's meant to be, it will eventually happen!

  • Anonymous
    2 decades ago

    I did and that is why I have an ex-wife.

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