Im 13 and one of my guy friends wants to have sex with me, as much as i want to i really dont want to either?

Sweetie listen... you're only 13... you've got years and years and years ahead of you to have sex... enjoyable, satisfying sex. Please don't do it if you feel you have to, because you're much too young. You'll regret doing it if you're not ready and a 13 there's no way you can be really ready. Never ever let anyone force you to have sex when you're not ready for it. You'll know when its time. If a guy tries to guilt you into it... dump him as fast as you can and move on. The guy is not worth it.

I think you should tell him no.

I honestly think that at 13 you are too young to be having sex. There could be serious repercussion because you are so young. The are so many things to think about once you start having sex, there is the risk of getting pregnant and STDs . When I say STDs I don't mean only Herpes, Gonorrhea, HIV-AIDS or Syphilis but there are other things like HPV (Human Palomar Virus) which is one of the causes of cervical cancer in women. Now you may not get infected with a STD or even get pregnant, but what about the emotional part of it?

When you have sex there is some amount of emotional involvement. So you have to be ready for that as well.

It's just way too much to handle at such a young age.Besides you are already said you don't want to . So don't let him or anyone else pressure you in to having sex or into doing anything in life that you don't want to.

If you do decide to have sex however, please for god-sakes make sure he uses a condom or two.

DO NOT DO IT.

First of all, you're 13 years old and speaking from experience, are not at all ready to handle the pressure that having sex can put on a person. You are certainly not ready to have a child, and even if you use a condom, there's always a chance that it will break. Besides, if you do it once, you'll get attached emotionally (natural hormones in the woman's body create the romantic attachment - men don't have the hormone) and he'll just think he has a f*ck buddy.

Great idea to have sex at thirteen! Here's what will happen.......

He'll be so overjoyed at having his way he''ll rush out and tell his best friend who in turn will tell someone else and before too long you'll have a reputation. You'll have to deal with the embarrasment that will cause.

Of course being thirteen means that your relationship with this boy will last FOREVER and you will never break up, which is a good thing 'cause in the unlikely event of a break up he'd be free to tell his friends about EVERYTHING you did together and you'd have to deal with the embarrasment of that revelation.

Boys talk y'see and it's great to be the one who scored first!

Assuming none of the above happens and he's very secretive about your frantic sex life (You'll be going at it like rabbits no doubt) It will be just a matter of time when you are put in a position where you want to have 'unprotected sex', no condom.

and guess what......you won't get pregnant! yay!! so you'll do that again and again till you eventually do fall pregnant.....at fourteen.

You'll have a lovely baby to play with and he'll have nice memories of frantic sex, and a new X box courtesy of his parents who'll do their damnest to keep you both apart 'cause no parent wants to see their kid saddled with a baby at such an early age.

Still fancy a bit of fun and games? Oh hell, I forgot to mention that these sort of things only happen to other people, never to the likes of you or me!!

Keep yourself intact kid, you're too young to dabbling in the sex thing, you really don't need the hassle, neither you or your parents because after all your decision to have sex will impact on them and if it goes wrong you will all have to deal with it FOREVER.

Have enough respect for your self to follow your heart. If you feel like you aren't ready, don't let him pressure you into it. If he likes and respects YOU, he won't try to force you to do anything. Sex should not be used to gain popularity or keep a friend/boyfriend. By the way, if he is only your friend and not a boyfriend, tell him to sod off! If he doesn't have enough respect for you to make you his girlfriend before you do the deed, how is he going to treat you afterward??? In my opinion sweetie, 13 is way to young. Don't let some guy take advantage of you! Having sex may make you seem older and cooler to your friends, but are those friends going to think you are cool and fun when you have a baby on your hip walking around and trying to still be one of the crowd? I'm not coming down on you, it's just that I had sex too young and now I'm paying for it!

Sounds like he's trying to force you into doing that. Be strong chicka, don't let into peer pressure. Especially since you're 13. You're young, you're surely beautiful, and obviously smart to have acknowledged your true conscious. Don't let him force you into doing this, because in the long run it wont be worth it. I'm sure in the future, you would want a guy thats sweet, smooth, and nice for your 1st time, if this is your first time. If this guy rushing you into this act, it wont be so pleasant. You know how our teachers say go with our first minds or listen to our conscious when we take a standardized test, listen to your true conscious, and let this guy know that you aren't playing any games. Let him know, that you're the boss and you own him lol. Well, not technically, but you should get the general idea. I hope you choose the wisest move, good luck. Remember: Don't let anyone change who you are!

If you are 13 you should wait because your virginity is something you can never get back. I am 16 and I am still a virgin and proud of it. You and your friend can have plenty of fun without having sex also if he is 13 or 14 then nether one of you are mentally ready to do that so take it from a good friend of mine that got pregnant at the same age you are now, wait(:

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One thing to remember:

Once you lose your virginity, you'll NEVER have that innocence back again.

I would say no. I waited until I was 19 and I'm happy that I did. I have a lot of confidence, I'm a very pretty woman, I know I'm great in bed and I can hold my head up w/out worrying about my past or having to wonder how many there have been.

Whatever you decide, protection is a must.

Listen, ur 13. what is the big rush. Just sit and think about it. If u do have sex with him, he will just tell all of his friends and then they will think ur just a freak. Rumors will get started and u will not like it. And then there's the what if: what if u get pregnant: what if u get a STD. And then the most difficult thing will be, that u will have to tell ur parents. Just think ARE U READY, ARE U REALLY READY FOR SEX AND ALL THAT GOES ALONG WITH IT. THINK ABOUT

you are not physically or emotionally ready to have sex I'm sure your aware of all the sexual diseases out there and condoms don't always work you also increase the risk of cervical cancer[fact] you are a child and there are laws to protect them it's illegal for a man or boy to have sex with an under age girl even with her consent. Virginity is special- once it's gone--- it's gone. wait till you meet some one who will make it a special loving experience not when you look back and wish you had waited.