Danyizzle

my boyfriend cheated on me in the past. It was on my birthday. I went home to celebrate with friends. I didn't find out about this until late November that year via snooping his email because of a bad feeling.

He claimed he cheated because I couldn't trust him. He claimed that it was because of my reservations from a previous guy who cheated on me and verbally abused me. But even in the beginning, my boyfriend pressured me to be his girlfriend, and blamed me for choosing that guy instead of him. This was all during our time at college. I moved in with him to get closer and because I lost my mom to lung cancer, and wanted positive vibes and good people to be around. That summer he cheated on me on my birthday.

When I confronted him, he cried crocodile tears, apologized and said that it didn't happen. He supposedly cheated on me with a transgendered woman. Admittedly I was frustrated by the cheating. I forgave him but encouraged that he talk to me more about why it happened, and I even suggested that we work together to explore his sexual interests because I'm kind of kinky and like to explore my own sexuality/sensuality.

He wouldn't budge much, his story changed, and he started blaming me and that I was pushing him to tell the truth. He started calling me out of my name, disrespecting me in front of his friends, etc. eventually he became physically abusive too.

The greatest hang up is that he's been present through so much hardship of mine. The loss of my mom, my dad...

I've been with my bf for three years. Even in the beginning things moved too fast, he wanted me to be his gf, to move in with him and all that jazz. Few months later, I found out that he wanted to cheat on me with a shemale, on my birthday, while I was out of town for the celebration. Since then, things have been way rocky. I asked him to tell me about the situation and even explained to him that if he were scared to admit anything about it, he could take his time, because he was "afraid that I would judge him as being gay" I told him I had no problem with exploring sexuality because I have done so myself. He continued to be shady about things and never really discussing anything with me.

I lost both of my parents and my older brother in the past four years (during college, recent graduate). I moved in with him and his parents in a new state because I don't have much supportive family except my grandmother who is sick with kidney disease. I have no friends, I never go to see my family. I moved here to be with him, expecting to find a job here, but it's impossible.

And the thing is, his entire family, especially his mother is judgmental and complains all the time about everything. She tries to put me down by judging my clothing, my family, and so forth. My family raised me to be respectable and wholesome, so idk.

All the while my boyfriend has called me out of my name, hit me, pushed me, choked me, bit me, you name it. And I try to defend myself, but I'm too small compared to him. He puts me down all the time in little sky ways. He forces me to exercise and I'm not overweight at all. I told him that it seems like he wants me to be perfect. He said he wants me to "perfect for me for the ways it matters to me." I've just never felt adequate or like enough for this guy since his need to seek out someone on my birthday.

I do a lot for his family and him. But it's never enough. I'm tired, depressed, suicidal, all this crap. I'm def not who I used to be.

Hello,

I really need help figuring out options for financial aid for grad school this fall. Last year, I graduated from Oberlin College. I have $13k in educational loans that I deferred in the beginning of this year. I have other open accounts in collections that are two years from medical bills (I had complications during school). I will be going to the Cranbrook Academy of Art this fall, and I have enough money for tuition via Stafford Loan, however, I need money for room + board, supplies, transportation, etc: $16k

I've looked at the eligibility requirements for the Grad Plus loan, but I just need someone to explain to me and confirm my eligibility for the loan this fall.

Please help! Thanks :)

I need help with some things that my boyfriend and I are going through. We have been dating for about 1 1/2 years and things were great in the beginning. I didn't want to be too serious with him in the beginning of our relationship, because I had a really bad breakup with a guy 6-7 months prior to that. But, in the summer of last year I decided to give him a try because I was over the guy that I had been with in the past. Things were okay in the summer, we stayed in the same area because we worked and go to the same college. Things became rocky in November of that year when I found out that he wanted to cheat on me with someone on Craigslist (I snooped in his email, I know that it was terrible of me, but I had this weird feeling to do so). When I brought it to his attention he was stonefaced and shocked and couldn't say anything, so I left, but he tried coming after me and crying and stuff to apologize. So for the next two weeks, he was very apologetic and "sorry." But, I wasn't too sure as to how sorry he was and if he really meant it or was just saying that to keep me around. Fast forwarding the next few months, we got into a lot of arguments and he felt that I should've gotten over him wanting to cheat on me if we were ever going to work things out. I kept explaining to him that it's not that easy for me to trust me that easily and that he would have to work to regain my trust. He became flirty with girls at parties and started wanting to go out with his friends to parties without me. But, he never slept by himself, he would always come back to my room when he went out. But now, it seems that we aren't on the same team anymore. We fight more than ever and have had huge fights where he calls me out of my names and when he ignores me and doesn't listen to what I have to say. And, I must admit I am guilty of saying things to him. But, we had one huge fight and he said that I needed to work on getting angry and saying things to him. So I have, but even when I try to talk to about normal stuff or important stuff relevant to our relationship, he ignores me or says that he doesn't have time or that he has to go somewhere. And when I express to him that I refuse to be his doormat and that I can't stick around for this, he tries to be nice and lovey-dovey. But it's just that I'm so confused because I don't think that this is real love because he still calls me out of my name and the other day, he kicked me out of his place (but he apologized for it the next day). But now, he's going through football camp and his coaches gives him **** and he has full days of practice and meetings and when I try to talk to him about things he just shuts me out. The other day he said that he needed his space but I don't know what that meant. He usually tells me to come over to his place after practice to sleep over and I do. So one day I came over but he asked me if I got his text and I didn't get it in time but it said that he wanted to sleep by himself tonight be cause he was "stressed out from football and dehydrated" But when I tried talking to him and I came into his room, he unpacked my stuff and let me stay over, and we cuddled for the night.

I know that every relationship is not perfect and the people within it won't be either. I'm not expecting that. But what I do expect is for their to be communication and honesty and to avoid confusion. Lately, I've been feeling very confused and like I should move on from this guy because he's not giving me the time and dedication that he used to.

And it blows my mind when he asks me to give him his space, but he would sleep in my room every night (we had an apartment together with three other housemates), and he would feel "entitled" to my room and my things. Every time that I asked him for space he would blow it off or say that I need to talk things over with him if I am feeling bad. Like for instance, I lost my mom due to lung cancer my senior year and I get really upset about that, so sometimes I need to blow some steam off or whatever and I get frustrated in the wrong ways. So he says that I use my mom's death as a crutch/an excuse to be mean to him or something. And, that just doesn't make sense to me.

I'm confused.

I am confused on what to wear to my friend's mardi gras party. I am always known for the sparkly, flash. I am just that type of girl. I wanted to wear a sequin dress, and I discussed this with my friend. But now, she wants to wear a sequin dress. She has already told me what she wanted to wear. Do I not overdress, or what? It's mardi gras themed. So, I was thinking of a gold or green dress.

I feel like i am going crazy. About three years ago. I lost my mom to lung cancer. She was diagnoses with it towards the end of my junior year in high-school and she had a very difficult battle with it during my senior year. She passed away in February, close to my graduation. I dont think i've been the same since. I find myself staring at things and not thinking anything by it. I went to college and ended up daring this guy that i thought i could confide in. He was a liar and a cheater and wasnt supportive. He was very manipulative and emotionally abusive. I broke up with him during the summer and though i felt it was the right decision...i still found myself in my room all summer just staring at my walls, hopelessly. I've been showing some signs of depression...not wanting to hang out or do anything, disinterested in things that i used to truly love, feeling really insecure about everything. I have momemnts where im extremely happy and the other extremely sad and aware of my insecurities. On top of that, my dad and grandmother are sick as well and i always tend to think of the worst

I ordered a phone from at&t online, and i got free overnight shipping. I ordered it around 7:30 p.m. ... when will it arrive?

I know that a headset comes with the black one, is it the same for the white one?

I've been with my boyfriend for about 1 and some change. We met my first year of college (i'm a sophomore now). He was known to be a big player, but he came to me so many times trying to tell me about his past, so that I wouldn't look at him like he was crazy. Over the course of our relationship, everything seemed to go smooth until I got this weird gut feeling that he was cheating/talking to other people. And, I know. You're NOT supposed to check someone's facebook or phone, but I did that and found out that he told one girl that he loved her and he lied to me about the age and relationship status of another girl (he told me that she was 28 married with kids, then 26 with a boyfriend) and when I found out on facebook, she was really 21.

(We're living long distance too) So, I can't never help but think about what he's been doing etc. And it's tormenting me, and it has been since the summer. Right before I went back to school, we broke up because he felt like I had 'issues" to deal with since he called himself trying to regain my trust after only 3 months. And foolishly, I tried to make him see why I was the right person for him to be with. But, he was being so mean and said things like he didn't have time for me. And that's when I realized that I couldn't deal with that, so I deleted him from my facebook list and blocked him. Until he contacted me like about the 4th week into the semester. He came back talking about he didn't know what happened to me, he was worried, and how he doesn't want me to be with anyone else. And I fell for that. So we got back together. October, we celebrated our first year anniversary together. Basically, I had more of a set plan than he did. He gave me flowers and took me to an arcade. I cooked food, we went out to eat the next morning and I paid, and when were being intimate, I made the place look really nice...candles and stuff (because I just like candles) lol.

And I've just been having these same tormented feelings, like I don't want to be with him at all. And he's been going through so much with his family, so I feel like me bringing this up would be a bad time. He always guilt trips me into staying with him, like "So you're going to give up the memories, the good times, can't nobody love you like I do." AND THAT CRAP gets annoying!

It's like if you think we've had good memories, it's mainly because I've made them. I basically did all the work in the relationship, while he was around lollygagging. And he even had the nerve to say that he's irreplaceable. REALLY?

I'm just trying to figure out a good time to break it off for good. This is finals week, and I don't want to do that to ruin my concentration. And, next month I am off for break, but I will be back on campus. And that's going to be hella depressing lol. What should I do?

btw. I am always the one to call or txt him, he barely does that for me.

I want to be much of a good girlfriend as I can. My boyfriend's been going through some things with his family lately. And, I'm not sure of how it's really making him feel. I tell him that he can talk to me about anything, come to me at any time he wants...basically, I just want be a listening ear for him and do what I can for him.

He's always there to listen to my worries. But, I'm afraid that I don't know how to deal with giving him advice, because he's such a one-worder, two-sentence type of person when it comes to telling me his problems. He says that he usually deals with these things himself, is that a problem? Should he let me help him or not?

So, I'm turning 19 this year. I want a look that says that I'm a cute 19. I don't want something that's revealing, because I want my look to look appear very chic, but still sexy and flirty at the same time. I have curves too! And, I want a color that makes my skin tone pop, I have brown-milk chocolate skin.

I was thinking of a black dress to play on the chic, sophisticated sexy look. But, I don't know. Is black too much of a drab for that day?

HELP!

I have major trust issues. I postbmy mother my senior year of highschool. and this event has left me self-inclined, quiet, not being able to trust, invulnerable, etc. I have a lot of anger and uncertainty inside; I have so much hostility or animosity. I get upset over little things, that wouldn't have mattered before her passing. I want to be the happy person I was, and it's bringing nothing but negativity towards my self and other friendships, relationships. What should I do?

So, I have bangs,

and im having an 80s party for my 18th bday.

and Im clueless on what I should do.

My 18th b-day party is August 16th. And I decided that I wanted it be an 80s themed party. Sooo, does anyone have any clever ideas of what I should do.

Colors,

decorations,

etc.

My 18th b-day party is August 16th. And I decided that I wanted it be an 80s themed party. Sooo, does anyone have any clever ideas of what I should do.

Colors,

decorations,

etc.

Okay. I'm turning 18 this year.

I want an outfit that says, "Look at me, I've grown up" but something's not too outrageous for my age, because I still will be just 18.

I don't know if I should mention, I'm curvy like Beyonce.

I want something that will flatter my shape.

Something that says peekaboo without being too revealing of my shape.

Get what I'm saying? lol. I hope.

HELPPPP!

I am trying to figure out my short terms and long terms goals for college. So if anyone's willing to help, I'd appreciate it.

I needed to know for my biology class. I forgot everything! Lol