What would you suggest in this situation?

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I'll try to make this  as simple as possible without skippin any of the necessary facts.
I went with my friend ( Let's call him Tom from now on) and his girlfriend (Sally) to eat dinner with his girlfriend's sister (Jane) and some other friends. So Jane shows some interest in me at dinner and afterwards asks me for my number. The next day she calls me to talk. We IM a couple of times and chat on myspace. So a week later, I go with Tom to hang out with Sally and Jane and another couple, Frank and Mary, and Mary's brother Bob (who it turns out was Jane's long time crush and who just broke up with his girlfriend). I expect Bob to be the odd-man-out, but instead it was me. Jane totally blew me off and spent the whole evening talking to Bob, while I sat there bored and annoyed. She completely ignored me.
What do I do now?

v_stroke_28 · Accepted Answer

Ouch, you have been 'regulated to second man' and that sucks-big time. I wouldn't let it faze you too much because you didn't have any real emotional attachment ot Jane. 

If she has done this to you it is an indication of her true personality. Someone who brushes you off like this has no regard to you as a person. Even if she just wanted to be friends by calling you up, she has shown little respect if she treats you like this during the hang out. Even friends don't ignore each other.

I know how you feel-believe me (all guys have horror stories like this) and the best thing you can do is forget about her. Better yet, if she ever calls again, say  your too busy to talk. 

Now repeat after me: 'Be gone evil woman' and move on :)

Jam · Answer

shes probably interested in him 2....i mean she may have asked u 4 ur number & was talking 2 u 4 a bit, but u 2 arent a couple so she can still keep her eyes open for other guys.

or maybe she was just trying to make u jealous.
i really dont know. & by the way, there were 2 many unneeded characters in ur story. thats y it was kinda long. most ppl on yahoo anwers will look at a long explanation like this and be like "oh this is too long, forget it im gonna answer another question"

so next time keep ur stories shorter & u might get more answers

good luck 2 ya

Iowa_Bound · Answer

it really sucks to be the odd man out, and it seems like you're it. You can IM her and ask her if she's interested in Bob and whats going on between you and her.  She might not like him as much, or she might think that he's not as great as she thought. Good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

Well it seems that Jane is really interested in Bob.  You can either bow out and see if Jane calls or you can call Jane and ask her out and see what happens.  She may find that she doesn't like Bob as much as she thought.  Of course, she may find she does like him and you may end up the one getting hurt.

junior1108 · Answer

Move on,she does not like you like you think.You should have understood that when she did not hang out with you.

boo66_2001 · Answer

Blow her off and go find someone else.  If she had truly liked you, she wouldn't have done that to you.

Anonymous · Answer

Move on and ignore her.  It's obvious she doesn't think much of you, so neither should you think much of her.  Don't waste your time on such an opportunist.

patty · Answer

Move on and forget her.

yoda . · Answer

hhhhmmm....confront her....you should.
explain your feelings to her.....you must!
be wise,polite,and listen to her responce.
only then....the truth you will know!

May the force be with you!

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