what does a mother do ...when u know ur daugter is not happy and my son-in-law in not the right one for her?

Be supportive. If you attack him (verbally or any other way) you put her in the position of defending him. It happens every time.

The first two years of a baby's life is the hardest on a marriage (statistically) and when the most divorces happen. I think your hands are tied and all you can do is let it play out, and be there when it ends to pick up the pieces.

Who knows .. maybe they will get some sort of help and be able to work it out. She has to decide for herself.

You be there for her if she wants to talk, ask her if she needs to talk, if she needs help or anything at all, but UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES do you EVER talk about him in a bad, disparaging way, because it will take her longer to get out of the situation, she will stay there longer trying to prove to you, herself, and everyone else that she didn't make a bad choice by getting with this guy. She will leave sooner and be happier if you let her know you are willing to listen, or help out without asking a lot of questions, making her feel worse, even though I know that that would not be your intentions because you sound like a loving mother who cares. It will be very hard to keep quiet (at least it would for me) and not point out all his faults, but you will help her more in the long run if you don't, trust me on this. Let her know that if she ever decides to go anywhere, you would be willing to help her move, but let her know in a loving way. Please don't come across as "Look, you need to kick this lazy no-good s.o.b. outta here and tell him to kiss your a$$", and a whole lotta other things like that, because you will only cause harm, she will remember you as someone who is hotheaded, came in and caused a lot of stuff, when everything could have been taken care of in a calm, peaceful manner, and if they are going to be divorced parents without attitudes to each other in the future, you don't want to cause hard feelings. If hard feelings do come into the picture, which they eventually might, you want to make sure that you had nothing to do with it, so your future ex-son-in-law doesn't decide to punish the daughter by being a bad father because of his hard feelings caused by things that were not her fault. And he might anyway because some people are like that, just don't give him any motivation to be that way, just in case he's one of those losers that are looking for an excuse to behave that way anyway. Good luck with this, I hope everything works out well in the end. You sound like a good person, please just go about offering your help in a kind loving way rather than judgemental. God bless

I think that since you are so concerned, you should be supportive of your daughter. If you push her she may push you away. Maybe you could sit down with her (or just causually say without it being so formal) and say that you're worried that she's not as happy as she used to be. Ask if there is anything you can do to help, but don't blame her husband. Maybe say something like "I've noticed you don't seem as happy lately. I'm worried about you because I love you so much. Is everything going ok with your baby and husband? Are you feeling ok?" If she doesn't answer or gives a cop-out answer like "I'm fine." Just say that you're glad she's ok, but that you're there if she wants to talk. In order to change her life, she'll need to have the determination and the decision herself. Good luck, you sound like you have good intentions.

Just talk to her and see if she feels the same way. No matter what she says in response whether its yes or no support her and tell her that you know she'll make the right decision whether its now or months from now. Help her understand that just because they have a child together doesn't mean that they have to stay together. And if she doesn't understand that then tell her you are sorry for intruding and you won't mention anything else about it.

just divorce the person