what do i do if my man won't do anything sexually?

1. You had sex out of wedlock?

2. You got pregnant before marriage?

3. He saw you have the baby and now is grossed out about going down there. Understandable. Regardless of political correctness, giving oral sex to a woman is nastier than giving a guy a blow'job. Two different hygene areas. Men don't get yeast/rash infections etc..

4. You are now outta shape compared to how you were before and you dont take the same care.

5. He has "options". Any woman with a vagina always has options but now things are a bit more even. You have a baby and you cant land a single guy anymore for a relationship. Guys have always had the disadvantage of female rejection and now you will have the same from males.

Advantage him. If you left him you probably would not see much support from him, even if the courts ordered it.

Don't give him an "ultimatum" or threaten to withhold sex. Oral sex isn't a "need" as you put it. That will backfire. Learn to live without giving it or recieving it.

Start working on yourself, your education and your life.

Depending on your ages, If you aren't married and If he hasn't proposed by now he will most likely drift away anyway.

Oral sex doesn't compare to an education and a future.

I suggest you seek a relationship counselor. Yes, it is important that both of you are satisfied..sexually. However, something has changed..and it might be due to the baby. It could a lot of reasons..he is more stand offish due to the baby and your bond and feel left out, he might find you less attractive because of baby fat (sounds mean, but could be true), or something else. I do think that not kissing is a red flag that the relationship is deteriorating..even more so than the oral sex (which depends on people's preference) Kissing is basic intimacy..and is essential..even if it doesnt lead to sex. So, I hope you seek some help before it gets worse.

First off, sex is not the key to a relationship.

Second, men often get a little skiddish after a child is born. There is a new bond between you and the baby. That bond sort of makes him insecure. I suggest trying to spend some quality time with you and him alone, also some good quality time with you, him and the baby.

Don't jump to conclusions about cheating, you should talk to him first.

As far as eating p*ssy being disgusting. I'm sure that's something that he hasnt done alot of in the past anyhow, if he feels that way. Also knowing that you just had a baby, might freak him out a little bit. Especially after all of the strange things that go on "down there" during pregancy. As far as disharge, odor, swelling ect.

Give him time. Talk to him seriously about it.

And also check out his diet. Diet has alot to do with sexual activity.

Sex is a very important part of any relationship. It maybe shouldn't be, but how could you be with someone you didn't have sexual chemistry with? That's not a relationship it's a friendship! I'd talk to your partner and explain that you feel neglected. In the bedroom maybe buy some porn with a girl recieving oral sex and watch it with him, telling him how much that turns you on. If he still doesn't get the hint, try 69'ing or try telling him he's not getting oral until you get it first.

A few ways to handle it.

#1 Sit him down for a talk; tell him how you feel; then say "we have a problem. How do you want to handle it?" Put it in his lap.

#2 Introduce him to 69.

#3 Make it clear that he will get his BJ after he satisfies you. If he questions you on the new policy, say "I think going down on a guy is nasty." Make sure you find something else that he likes that is suddenly "nasty" to you so that he will have to negotiate for it. This doesn't even have to be in the bedroom. "I think doing a guy's laundry is nasty." Get the picture? He will.

Make it clear to him that you think you owe it to your child to stay together and meet one another's needs and that you don't WANT to have an open marriage but if he goes elsewhere, so will you. He needs to figure out that it's not all about him. And what kind of girl blows another girl's man? Pretty pathetic.

It is very important, that you both satisfy each other. It's harder, now that you have a child with him.

But you have a long life ahead of you, and it's not fair, living the way you are now.

It seems to me, that if you leave him, you will be losing nothing, as that is what he is giving you, nothing.

Time to sit back and make plans for you and your baby. It won't be easy, but at least you will have a chance of a better life and better sex in the future.

Well I hate to say it to you but when my first husband started cheating on me those were all the things that he did to me. When we first got together it was all good and then after I had our son it turned upside down and he said it was cuz he felt second to the baby and I didn't pay any attention to him but the truth was that he was cheating on me and yes I do think this is very important and you should do something about it.

It is very important and key to maintaining a healthy relationship!You may need to consider moving on, you refer to him as your guy, so hopefully that means that you aren't married yet, you need to get out there and find some one who will rival you sexually and who isn't so selfish, don't let the fact that you have a child together keep you from progressing, meaning leaving him!

Sounds like you a lot on your mind. Well, it's good that you don't want to cheat on him. That would make things only worse. At least your telling him how you really feel. Don't stop! Also the truth hurts! Maybe he's seeing someone else. Good Luck!!

it's one of the most important thing in a relationship. tell him the top three reasons for divorce in U.S are, money, bad sex, cheating. this will give him a clue, if he cares about you and the baby, he should make a big effort to change, if not, you should think about your life and future, maybe it's time to move on, as you get older you will be more horny, that's women.