I'm confused, I need help!!!!?

I would wait on the engagement and have a serious "heart-to-heart" with your boyfriend. Explain to him (it may have to be in simple terms...you know "us guys" ;) ), that (1) smoking pot is illegal; (2) you are not ready to suffer the consequences of his actions (if he were to lose his job, etc.), (3) that you don't like the fact that he goes out and hangs with his buddies instead of being with you after work.

Depending on his response will give you alot better understanding of whether it is really worth it in the long run to get engaged and then married. (You don't want to become a dreadful divorce statistic!).

It should annoy the hell out of you. If he is 23 he should grow up and stop smoking pot. I am 23 and married. Smoking pot is a teenage phase that he needs to grow out of. Is he mature enough to get married? I think you are at a different level than he is. If you do marry him and have kids because that is the next step. What will you tell your kids about drugs? Will they say, but daddy does it?

What is the confusion? You hate the behavior. You do not and cannot have a relationship with anyone who uses drugs (including alcohol) Ask yourself to think about the positive things he brings to your life (there may be a couple) Then if you care about this man, tell him you care about him, when he grows up and is ready to have a relationship, give you a call. Maybe you'll be available. Wish him the best and offer to help him get help when and if he decides to clean up his act and life. Just remember - there is no relationship now, as things are.

doesnt sound good. get out of the picture until he grows up and decides to stay away from that stuff. it leads to so much more than just pot. trust me, my brother has been through it. its not a good thing. if he loves you, then he has to change in order to be with you. he's 23....he needs to start growing up.

You should leave this relationship right now. The longer you stay in this relationship the more hurt you are asking for. Go find you someone who does not do all this stuff. In the long run you will be glad you did.

DUMP HIM !! It is very clear that you can not take what he is doing. Do you think marrying him will change the situation and his habit? Believe me, after marrying him, it will be worse. Go...as far as you could...while you still can. You are still young and there are still a lot of better guys out there. LOVE YOURSELF. You deserve to be happy. (And you also owe it to your future children !)

Either deal with it or get out. You cant force him to stop smoking. He will just do it behind your back.

Get away.

He will eventually use other drugs, will end up in jail, or worse.

Just move on