Why is that the husband loses the hold over his wife over time in spite of having the first mover advantage!?

Because he does not appreciate what she does for him.

ats bcits normally ground into the brain in a traditional society that the woman is there for the mans pleasure and service. But as the woman matures and hasmore responsibilities she wears down easier and starts asking for more and more help. if she doesnt get the help she thinks she deserves she may just stop and change the way she is. She may be more demanding to get to the resultof you the man doing more and making things more equal. In the us a marriage is usually a balance...the man and woman are equals and share the responsibilities

That concept of marriage has all but vanished in the U.S. It's not an issue of one having more control over the other. Responsibilities towards each other are usually expected to be equal, as in a partnership. That doesn't mean it always ends up that way. Our culture as a whole doesn't dictate the type of relationship. The individuals do by their own choices.

Well if a man is over his wife with love and kindness, compassion and forgiveness, then he won't have to worry about losing his hold. Now if he is over her with an iron fist and an iron heart then yes he will loose his hold over her.

Whether your culture is Indian or not...no one likes to continue and be treated like a servant all of their lives. That continued activity will always lead to misery, disrespect...and eventually hate. Everyone (regardless of who they are) wishes to be treated with equality and want respect and love. Even a dog will eventually hate you if you continue to "dog" him.

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