I feel guilty when I don't help others?

Helping others does not mean you are a bank, a hotel, a taxicab, etc., etc., DON'T BE A DOORMAT ANY MORE. Set some boundaries, and stick to 'em. If you have to cut users out of your life, oh well.

I have a hard time saying no to someone too. Its really hard the first couple of times. You need to work up the courage and say I can't give you my last $20 because i need it, or I want to help you and be there for you but I really need to finish my project first. You aren't really a giver or a chump, your more like a pushover.

well girl, i could ask u to read a book on the subject, except i don't think it'll work.

if it gives u comfort, there are millions out there who struggle with this problem at different points in their life. there is nothing wrong with helping others, but sensitive souls like u tend to take this role and this responsibility too seriously.

as per ur account u r always helping others. now i want u to close ur eyes and think hard before answering this - "wen was the last time someone else made a genuine effort to help YOU?"

see what i mean? u spend so much time and energy helping others that they forget that u too need help now and then. unfortunately, the only term for a person who does that in our society is 'pushover'.

there is nothing wrong with wanting to help others, just maintain a balance. there is only one person who matters most in life, one person who'll always be with u no matter what, one person u can ALWAYS count on, and u r ignoring this person at the cost of ur other, more selfish friends. know who this person is? YOURSELF.

one tip to let others down gently and not look bad - be honest, let them know ur situation. like in case of ur bf, u could have given him $10 and kept the other half for urself, and in case of the friend u could have apologized and said u really needed to work on the project and u hoped she understood...and so on and so forth.

look i can only guide u, beyond a point, it is, and will remain, ur decision. so chin up girl, and all the best. and remember- not being able to help Everyone All of the time is not bad, just means u r taking time out to care for the most important person in ur life -YOU

Ok truthfully,

You have to understand that friends and family are always going to ask for help and will expect you to help them.

That the thing with a family or friend, you can yell at them, you can fight with them, but you'll probaly always love them and have to take the bad to get the good.

A family CAN seem to want alot some times but thats just the way it is.

and cutting people out of your life instead of saying no isen't the best idea.

If your friends don't repay you or your family dosen't help you too then you may need to talk to them.

I am exactly the same way....Its because we cant say no so people take advantage of that, I recently had to fork out a fortune for my sons medical condition then my mum rang a day later for money knowing good and well I couldnt afford it but I still gave it to her. My partner and I argue all the time because I cant say no but its just my nature. I have to start thinking of myself and my family though and you need to put your needs first too. Hopefully it will come to the both of us one day.

its normal u should help ur self before ppl u dun have too help its kool to do cuz its human thing but remember always u dun have to lose to make ppl gain so if u cant honestly say no if they dun understand then u dun have to care if they understand then they r worth being around!

good luck

Nothing wrong with wanting to help others..but when they want something all the time it gets old....You are not wrong to walk away besides they have to learn to do things for themselves

When ever u get an oppertunity don hesitate to do, If u didn't, don think abt it..... coooleziiii.