my fiance' doesnt want me to have a motorcycle. what should I do?

Consider two concepts: 1) Look up Marriage in the dictionary and you'll find the word "compromise" 2) Psychology 101 tells us that "you can't control other people, you can only control yourself". In short, what I'm saying is, you should NOT give up motorcycles based on your fiance's insistence, HOWEVER, whenever you get married (to whomever?), you will have a duty to yourself and them, to not engage in reckless behavior. I'm not saying that riding a motorcycle is reckless, but the utmost of care will have to be exercised by you when riding one. Remember two things, at some point, you will have a family depending upon you, and your good health, and your ability to make a living and provide for them...you "owe" them that much, at least. Secondly, motorcycle accidents are far less "forgiving" than auto accidents. The 20 mph fender bender that everyone walks away from, none the worse for wear, can kill or disable you on a motorcycle! The choice is yours, and not to be too trite, actions do have consequences.

Its common that your other half might not share your love for the things you want the most, you just have to cope with it and move on.

However, her overwhelming fear of you hurting yourself on the bike might be a sign of paranoia of losing you, possibly an early sign she'll become controlling on what you can or can not do later on in your relationship. You need to comfort her and let her understand your point of view and shake that fear off her a bit.

Show her TV shows that talks about bike to get her to understand that riding bike is not as crazy as she think, she probably gotten the wrong impression from watching movies that ppl just get run over and die while riding bikes.

A good thing to do is to take her to bike shows that shows other bike and ppl, educate her in the way how bike work and how ppl on bike is not on the road to kill themselves.

By showing her that as long as you show good judgment and good practice on the bike, its actually not as dangerous as what she think. It might one day help her understand your love and gradually accept it.

It looks like she's caring for your well being, which is a good thing. Just don't let it turn into paranoia later on, start educating her about the things you love & you should be alright.

I don't know... I would never tell my husband not to get a bike. But I also know he is INCREDIBLY safe when riding. it's the other losers on the road we have to worry about. but I go riding with him!!

This is a tough one, maybe you should talk to her about getting safety training, and see if you can borrow a friend's bike to take her for a ride. Pushing and pushing and begging aren't going to make the difference, but showing her that it is fun and that you will be safe may help her come to terms. She needs to remember that life is UNSAFE, you could get hit by a bus, or a car with or without a bike. But if you wear a helmet and a good bike jacket and pants to help protect you if you do fall, and promise to ride safely, she might consider it.

HOWEVER, you might want to get used to the idea that you are marrying someone who doesn't want you to have toys like this! that's why I bought all my guitars and amps when I was young!! but thankfully my hubby is OK with all of it, and I am not against him having a bike. Sorry, I hope I helped a bit, but you might not change her mind.

My fiance is the same way. I even try to point out to her the convenience of having a bike but it doesn't work.

AT least you know she loves you and is concerned for your well being. I know it can be fustrating not being able to do what you want but if you are ready to get married then all your decisions are going to be joint ones anyway. You will be one with your partner and if a decision is going to make her uncomfortable then you have to tryu to make that sacrifice for her. Its tough but wat r u going to do. You love her right? Then dont risk your relationship on some thrill rides.

You'll have to decide how much it's worth to you to be able to get the bike. If she absolutely refuses to budge, then you'll have to give it up to keep her.

However, this gives you a nice ace in the hole to be used as a bargaining chip at a later date (sorry for the mixed metaphors). Just make sure that you make clear to her that you're giving up your dream of motorcycle ownership because you love her soooo much. Then, when she won't let you get the plasma screen or similar, you know what to do...

Well, I can understand her concern and fear but you can die in so many ways. If you tell her you will becareful and to trust you, i hope she comes around. Married couples have to give each other space and allow them to do things that give them happiness. Sometimes you have to be willing, as a wife, to let go of things you cannot control( death) that makes your hubby happy. I would rather see my husband pass on doing something he loved, then resent me for being controlling. I hope she sees this and I hope you follow through with being careful, gl!

WOW WHAT A QUESTION....BIKES ARE SUCH FUN....

VERY DANGEROUS AND ADDICTING ONCE YOU GET ON IT YOU WON'T WANT TO GET OFF IT....THAT'S WHEN THE ARGUMENTS START...SHE'LL WANT TO GO OUT YOU WANT TO RIDE THE BIKE...UNLESS SHE LOVES TO RIDE TOO...ARE YOU READY FOR HER TO SAY SHE WANTS A BIKE OF HER OWN...WOULD YOU MIND...YOU MAY BE OPENING A CAN OF WORMS..

WHAT WOMAN WORRY ABOUT WHEN THERE MAN HAS A BIKE.....

WILL HE GET KILLED

WILL HE EVER BE HOME

WILL I COME SECOND

NOW HERE IS THE BIGGIE WILL HE HAVE OTHER GIRLS ON THE BACK...(GIRLS ALWAYS ASK FOR RIDES)CAN YOU SAY NOOOOOOO...FOOD FOR THOUGHT !!!!

GOOD LUCK

sit down with your fiance and make a list of pros and cons about owning a motorcycle. you also need to decide which is most important your fiance or a motorcycle. its obvious that she is very much in love with you and just doesn't want to see you get hurt.

Is that how your whole marriage is gonna be? If my man wanted one I'd just tell him to get some real good life insurance, too. I say get one. If she really loved you then she'd try to understand that men need some kind of excitement and adventure.

Dump the girlfriend and go for the open road. She would probable never let you ride it after you get married.