best solution?

The best way to do is just to support your child as prescribed, and try to work the relationship between you and the mother of your two children. Try to give love to your children and to the mother of your two children. If you really love somebody it doesn't mean that you should have a relationship with his/her just consider him/her as just a friend, or even just a good brother/sister that makes your life very easy one.

You're torn between the mother of your children and the love of your life. Please!! If I was a guy I guess I would be screwing both of them.

My friend, you have to think of the kids. I will say the other woman, the one you think is the true love, might look different to you were you to experience her everyday, taking care of the kids she gave you, not always glamorous and charming, but tired and worn and concerned and needing some adult company.

im not a guy but i certainly understand this situation as ive dealt with this myself if you love the girl you are with then stay with her as long as she treats you the way you deserve to be treated i know you have kids with the other one but those days of love are over however she can still be a part of your life as friends at least for the sake of the kids

Its very diffecult problem,

First do think why you left Yr boys mother, and why u married yr present wife?

when you find the answers U will find the solution

If there's children involved, then one owes it to them to try to work out the relationship. Their well beings comes first, not you.

children are important. they always come first. but when it comes to you ... you need to be honest with yourself and ask yourself if this is what u really want and is it worth putting ur children through. its not a decision you should take likely.

children first, its your responsibility.