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Dicipline what is acceptable for a 14 yr old ????

When your teen daughter is rude, violates house rules, sneaks, and steals from wallet. is currently on probation for stealing my car and getting caught!!

Any suggestions out there consequential type dicipline? Taking away TV, cell phone, priviledges....dont' seem to phase this kid.

Update:

This adopted child is a former DCFS ward. I adopted her 9 yrs ago. Spending Mother Daughter time always leads to days and days of her hate, mouthy lip, rudeness....I do spend Mother Daughter time but I am the one that is punished after the quality time has been accomplished. Her probation officer keeps telling her that she needs to work on her inner workings in the household...but it goes in 1 ear and out the other! She's stubborn, and keeps thinking it's ONLY HER way that matters and to HELL with every1 else. She's inconsiderate and hurts peoples feelings and never appologizes!

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  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    My parents would never have let it get that far to begin with

    As my father says

    "I brought you into this world, and I can take you out."

    I am 38, and there are still things I won't do because my dad will come to where I am and Kick my ***.

    I was raised when spanking was acceptable.

    Nothing gets the point faster than the swift hand of justice.

    I was also raised to respect my parents.

    There was no talking back, swearing, stealling.

    And if I stole the car I would have been safer in jail.

    If I damaged property I worked for that person until my dad thought is was enough.

    If nothing your doing seems to work, go to your local police dept,they may have some ideas.

    If she gets picked up by the cops, let her sit there all night and longer.

    Give her a tour of a morge with the toe tags attached to he bodies.

    Sounds like you've been way too soft on her and your both paying the price.

    Kid's like this fustrate the heck out of me.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

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  • 1 decade ago

    She probably is craving attention. How much time do you spend with her? Sometimes a mother-daughter day is fun... You can take her out for breakfast / lunch, take her shopping, go see a movie, or something. Talk to her more and get more involved in her life.

    Stick with the no television, cell phone, and other rules though. I think that's good if you stick with it. Make sure to put a lock code on it when she's around (television) and make sure she isn't sneaking around. Don't allow her to hang out with her friends. I know I sound weird with good stuff first, then taking away her luxuries, but maybe you can try spending more time with her and if it doesn't work, THEN you can continue with punishment. I think it will do her some good to have more mother - daughter time, though. :)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think you should talk to her and call the cops over when you do it. I think she need not to come out of her room only to pee and eat. Take everything out of her room even, nonthing should be left in their but her bed. She needs no phone calls, no cell phone, no music, tv but what she can get is her a** beat. It's in the bible Spare the Rod Spare the Child.

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  • 1 decade ago

    try involving her in running the household, like teach her how to cook and grocery shop. spend time with her doing something constructive. or accept the fact that not disciplining her when she was younger finally caught up to you all.

  • lins
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    this sound like her talking to you but i dont know you....see give her a new car...a new set of keys...a new wallet with new money on it...a new tv.. a new cell phone...if you cant afford all this just show it to her...on picture...and tell her this is what you wants for her...but if you can afford it dont be yellous to do it,,. this is call gang problem...she is not willing to talk...and then...take her to church...dressed with a new skirt...very pretty..and

    Source(s): make sure when you do this ,,you will take a wittness...if it doesnt work...you need to talk to me again...
  • 1 decade ago

    you are in a very difficult spot it sounds like she has lost respect for herself and life in general you may have to do what ever is necessary to reach her!

  • 1 decade ago

    Call the cops to come talk to her. I think they will do that as a service.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Dear, i advice you every time when this girl becomes naughty , i advice you to get her fully naked and spank her on her buttocks untill redness and crying.Sientifically , spanking is the best correction way.Do it now and tell me the result please.

  • Joy
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I agree beat her a$$

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