is it okay to be attracted to the room mate?

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here's the deal.  i have been talking to this guy since june and discovered about 2 weeks ago that i'm not in the least attracted to him.  i like him and think  he is cool, but i'm not attracted to him.  rather, i'm very much attracted to his room mate who is also a close friend.  the room mate has dropped subtle hints that he is attracted to me and that has made me want to pursue something with him even more.  now i find myself asking about the room mate when on the phone with the guy i am talking to and thinking about the room mate a lot.  i've even had a couple of dreams.  i really don't know what to do.  i want to be happy and feel i will be happier with the room mate rather than the guy i'm talking but i don't have a valid reason to stop talking to him and i don't know if it's okay to pursue something with the room mate.  so please help me out and quick because i'm losing sleep over this!

WitchTwo · Accepted Answer

Happens to everyone........all the time. If your not attracted to this guy he has to feel it.......You're not dating him right.........so, you start by talking to the roommate whenever he answers the phone........you talk to him a lot when you are over there.......he'll get the message! Don't worry about hurting your friend, hes wasting his time......but if you can introduce him to some other girls that would help ease it.......who knows he might be thinking the same thing! 

Just go for it, we can't help who we're attracted to no matter how nice someone may be.......if we could we would be one of those women we hate, you know the one........they pretend to like someone and use them to get material things.......better to break a heart and be honest.

Simmy · Answer

It's best to tell the guy your not attracted to whats going on. I'm sure he will mention something to his roomate about this and the roomate will confront you about it or what not. But you don't want to make a move with the roomate first. Then it wil really hurt the guy your not attracted to. Things could turn ugly.

? · Answer

Yeah... it relatively is a enormously shitty difficulty. there isn't any way of breaking apart including your lady chum without her getting relatively offended. in spite of the incontrovertible fact that she merits to be recommended the fact, so which you could tell her what exceeded off and ask for forgiveness for hurting her thoughts and mendacity to her approximately it. absolutely everyone merits a minimum of that form of straightforward admire. good success, dude.

lhm1968 · Answer

Start seeing the roomate on the DL from the guy your seeing. But you need cool about it and so does he. I see no harm in it.

Anonymous · Answer

ask the guy once and for all for his room mate's number then start calling the room mate...

Anonymous · Answer

you do have a valid reason to stop talking to dude because your not interested in him and he may be putting his heart into you and you aint even feeling him but sure its alright to be attracted to the other dude you and homeboy aint married and your free to date and talk to who you please but if you and his homboy dont mind hurting him go right on ahead

manyhartz · Answer

hey you are young and single-why tie yourself down with just oen guy.

Nirmal · Answer

Yuk..
U stink with yr feelings..

Poor guy.. he doesn't know what u really feel.

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