Kokoa

Currently I'm in a relationship and things have gotten very bad. For the last few months, we have had nothing but heated arguments over several major issues. He thinks I'm cheating or thinking of cheating because the amount of affection I use to show him has decreased. I told him never say that to me or you can kiss the relationship good bye because that is not how I roll. He has trust issues because of his part girlfriends or girls he used to mess with and what ever they did, he is holding above my head. Now we weren't always at each other's throats like we are now. We used to be very kind and loving towards each other. We used to spend a lot of time together and things were really good. So good, we discussed marriage and kids a couple of times even though we are both still young (23 years old). But things started to change, and for the worse, when he lost his job last October. I tried to be a good girlfriend and stick through the hard times and convince myself that it would all be better. I didn't want to break up with him because he had done so much for me and that would mean that I was ungrateful for what he had done. But I also realized that I wasn't staying in the relationship for me but rather for him and something told me things weren't going to change. We would argue endless until I am submissive to exactly what he wants and I cannot do that for any one but myself. I told him I wanted a break because I didn't know another way to make this thing work. I needed time away from him, the arguments and negative energy that was coming from him for a little while so I could figure things out. I let him know this and he doesn't want that. He wants to try and work everything out the way it is and gave an option. Either I stayed with him or we broke up. I told him I didn't want to break up with him, I just needed some time to myself to get things figured out. He can't understand that and therefore wants it his way. He still wants to be with me but I told him I need sometime to myself and he won't give it to me. So I don't know what to do. Can someone tell me what to do or what is the best way to get this figured out once and for all?

i have a very different and unique name and every time i tell some one my name they tell me its beautiful and further asks me what does it mean. i am embarrassed to say i don't know. my mother never told me and when she did, she said it was my father's idea. she said something about africa but that is all i know. i have searched high and low to searching for the answer to the question of the meaning of my name. i was wondering if any one knew what it meant or some where i could go to figure it out. my name is sikoka. help me if you can. this is my question in life that i need answered.

here's the deal. i have been talking to this guy since june and discovered about 2 weeks ago that i'm not in the least attracted to him. i like him and think he is cool, but i'm not attracted to him. rather, i'm very much attracted to his room mate who is also a close friend. the room mate has dropped subtle hints that he is attracted to me and that has made me want to pursue something with him even more. now i find myself asking about the room mate when on the phone with the guy i am talking to and thinking about the room mate a lot. i've even had a couple of dreams. i really don't know what to do. i want to be happy and feel i will be happier with the room mate rather than the guy i'm talking but i don't have a valid reason to stop talking to him and i don't know if it's okay to pursue something with the room mate. so please help me out and quick because i'm losing sleep over this!

I know that Capitol Hill and Georgetown are crazy expensive and all the South East district is said to be dangerous. I have stayed in the North West district and want to stay there but I still don't know which neighborhood would be a good one for me. I am a laid back sort of person and like sitting outside some times. I like peace, quiet, and serenity. So if you are familar with the D.C. area, please tell me a good inexpensive neighborhood to stay in.