When is enough enough?

So you spend the last 12 years with this person? How did you manage?

Has he always been controlling or has this been going on the whole 12 years. If it has just started then I say he has other agenda and I would watch him like a hawk, he is up to something. Either he is having a affair or he is getting ready to tell you he is not happy and needs to find himself.If he has always been verbally abusive then it might lead to him actually acted on his anger.Sounds like he is not happy with himself and taken it out on you.It makes him feel better to degrade you.You need to communicate withoout getting angry and if you cannot do this you might want to seek help else where.Even if he does not want help get you some and you well be able to deal with him better.Build your self confidence up and prove too yourself your can do this with or without him in the long run all three will be better off.

Has it taken you twelve years to find out what your husband is like?

You mentioned ‘the last remaining child in the house’. You kind of lost me there… Unless there were children to a previous marriage, then your kids would all be under twelve years of age. ‘The last remaining child’ suggests others have left home.

It really doesn’t sound too much of a marital relationship that you have. You say he is constantly putting you down… and you are doing a pretty good job of putting him down here!!! It certainly isn’t much of an environment for your children/child to be brought up in!!!

All I can suggest is that for the sake of your last remaining child, you and your husband need to sort yourselves out! Putting each other down all the time, especially in front of your child, is very harmful to your child!!!

I’m not going to suggest that you leave your husband… but I certainly would suggest that a visit by you and your husband to a marriage guidance counsellor, wouldn’t go astray. You both seem to have forgotten what a ‘loving marital relationship’ is all about!!!

Talk to your husband… Tell him how you feel… His constantly putting you down, can’t be doing anything to boost your self-confidence, so tell him!!! You haven’t mentioned that he is violent toward you, so I can only assume that the only abuse he throws at you is verbal. If there is violence in the relationship, then for your own safety, you need to get the police involved.

I don’t want to be critical of you or your husband. At the same time however, I am not going to feel sympathetic toward you either. My concern is what your relationship is doing to your ‘last remaining child’. I sure as heck wouldn’t want to live with parents who are carrying on the way you and your husband appear to be. If that sounds harsh… put yourself in your child’s shoes!!! You are supposed to be role-models. In years to come, your child is going to be a parent… the only parenting experience he/she is going to have is what he/she has learnt from you two. Is it any wonder so many marriages turn out like crap!!!!

See a counsellor… pronto!!!

That is a control freak. Consult a counselor or find a book with advice on dealing with one. Chances are this is not the type of person who would consider counseling (since he/she would insist they do not *have* a problem). You may find that your options are limited and enough is already enough.

i think you should get a professional to sit the both of you down and someone that can be objective ! so that he/she can tell this person to sit down and its not your turn to speak ! you listen !

having someone in as a third party helps !

try that if that don't work well then you give that person a ultimatum ! if you don't stop then I'm leaving ! tell them they have to fix there attitude towards life !

put the ball in there court !

good luck !

lets say enough now its over good bye that person is a controling insecure idiot move out with ur children move on leave

Time to leave