Should I keep speaking with the ex?

She is right, time will tell...More people you meet, more confuses you'll get...You will start to compare all the them to each other...guess what? you would find no one you really like...Have you heart this before? Love is blind...if you find sonebody and you have right feeling with her, go for it...

Been married 21 years here, but Ive been close to your situation. Go on with your life no matter how painful. Al;ways be cordial and the better person but dont pressure her to do anything she isnt ready for. If she sees you relaxed and no pressure she may relax to the point of making a decision. It might be good it might be bad.

I hope it goes ok for you. The best thing for you is to try and find something that really makes you happy (and yes I know what your gonna say, I mean something else)

Think of something that defined you before you got married. Music, sports, something that makes you an individual. Your renewal of yourself will also possibly rekindle the thing that made her marry you in the first place

let me tell you what is gonna happen...."She tells you now that she feels something that is confused and all....that is not quite true....she wants to keep you as a back up in case the current relationship doesn't work she knows you'll be as the backup....will that happen?? may be....or may be not!! Don't fall for that, don't waste your time waiting on someone that might of or might not go back with you, move on...don't let her play you,may be she is not doing it on purpose but if she decided to move on and have a relationship with someone else you deserve to do the same....don't worry I am sure there will be a girl waiting for you somewhere. Good luck!!

I was in the EXACT same spot as ur ex. it suks and it REALLY is hard! Shes probly not just bullsh**ing u. U said that deep down u want to make things work, that doesnt mean that u have to wait 4 her while shes in a relashionship with some1 else, thats wrong. tell her that u want to make things work but u really cant wait 4ever. tell her that if sahe cant make a decision ur gone

If she's in love with her new found lover leave her be. Talking sometimes is a good idea but usually ex's becoming back friends never works. So just let the friendship fade away quietly...

That's a horrible situation; you can't really give an ultimatum because it'll appear insensitive but on the other hand it sounds as if your ex wants her cake and eat it, too.

I'd definitely still talk to her but let her know that you're dating others.(even if it isn't true) Once she realizes that you're not waiting around for her it may kick-start her hopes of getting back together.

It would be great if you can remain friends. It is always best not to burn any bridges.

But please remember---- it is over.

Don't be her second best.

Don't be there "just in case" she decides that your the one she wants.

Don't be a door mat. Go on with your life. Date, go out and have fun with your friends.

She will always be confused if she can count on you to be there on a whim.

And if she does decide it is you that she wants. Make her work for you.

A relationship revisited is like a tire that you had to plug. Somewhere in the back of your mind you'll be thinking about when the next let down will occur.

Sounds like she's dragging you along and you don't deserve that. Stop talking to her unless you want to get back together and in that circumstance she needs to get over her confusion and be exclusive with you. Otherwise it sounds like it's time for you to move on.

She may honestly still love you. She might just want to check out what else is out there for herself due to fright of committment. Once she figures it out, she'll either be back or moved on.

I wouldn't wait around especially if she's dating. You should take this opportunity to "soil your oats" also. If she comes back and you still want her, take her back. But until then, continue on with your life and find out what's out there. Don't wait!