I have a question for the Adult ladies?

DEAR, LISTEN TO ME...........If a woman is in an abusive relationship, there is something wrong with her that you have no control over.........Please, for yourself, don't go through the games she is playing with you ANY MORE.......She is a sick individual and needs professional help........For your own good, leave her alone!!!!!!!!! She's never going ot leave him because she has instilled in her mind that she deserves this kind of life......You owe it to yourself to move on.................

This is a tough situation...Only you can answer this in your heart. She obviously has issues that she needs to deal with herself but you are the only person here that can decide what happens. You must love her to wait for her for so long... but if she's in a situation that when a man is abusive it is hard for the woman to leave. She has to be the one to say "I'm leaving you". The only thing that i would advise is to arrange to meet with her and talk about everything. Tell her how you're feeling right now. Show her what everyone thinks here. Make her see that she needs to decide what she wants because you can't lead your life waiting for something to happen....It's got to happen now. If she loves you enough then she will leave him, but you need to know where you stand because it isn't fair for you to feel this way. If she does then you can deal with everything together... however if she doesn't then it isn't the end of the world. We'll all help you on here get through such a difficult time. I truly hope that you can resolve this. May your future be blessed with happiness and don't forget to let us know how things go. Take care!

I think she does care for you, but she obviously loves her husband. She is also using you as a pawn because she knows you will be there to pick up the mess when she gets tired of her husband. You are nothing more then a back up plan. She knows that well if things get bad with her husband she can run to you and use you, then when things get better she can go back to him and she knows you will wait around for her. I would tell her she has one more chance, either leave him and be serious with you, or you need to move on with your life. You are a human being and have needs and you deserve more respect than she can give you. If she does not come then move on. You can care for her, and be her friend, but stop letting her use you. Go find someone else who wants you, and only you.

Unfortunately with married folk, they are 9 x's out of 10 will not leave their spouse. So you are just setting yourself up to get your heart broken. If i were you, I would shake that load off and move on. Although I know it will hurt but the cool thing with life is that you will get over it and then you will look back one day and say, what the hell was I thinking.

Just adding my bit to the list of advice given by all viewers listed. She will never leave her husband. You are her escape, Her outlet. Sorry to say. She is messing with your head.'' When you love someone you don't want to lose them. This is not so in her case. Move on. Time heals all wounds. You will get over her in time and you will look back and wonder why you ever got involved. This person is confused and is going to please herself. There is someone out there for you who will really appreciate your love and all that you have been through will be a distant memory.

The best thing to do is to leave you comments to yourself. You can't make someone see something if they insist on being blind. A person can only take so much and when feels that she has reached that limit then she will keep her word, but until then just support her and help build her self esteem so that she can realize that she can do better and leave him alone.

Sounds like THEY.. DESERVE..EACHOTHER..!!! Get out of the way..!!! YOU..should move on.... Have some dignity.. Be strong..you sound like a good person..and she doesn't deserve you... Why do you keep hanging on.. she is just playing with you..because she knows you will be around no matter what..That is NOT.. a best friend!!! YOU..are letting her..break your heart!! Do things to forget about her.. don't include her in your future plans.. WHY.. would you want to wait..to see if she will come back to you...!! When she wants you back.. YOU..should...NOT.. be..around for her to hurt you again!! Come on.... you are better than that.. and you know it...!!! ...... Be Strong and move forward...!!! Good Luck!!

i think you should cut off all ties with her- then that wont give her the option of hurting you- if you want a true friend contact me- thru my 360 page- keep your chin up- even if she does leave her hubby- then you will always have to worry about her treating you like crap as well- some women unfortunately do not appreciate a nice man- it sucks but if you ever wanna chat send me an e-mail- take care

I would advise you to let her go! I think it is wrong to have a relationship with a married person! Now if she gets a divorce due to her husband not being a husband! That I would have to pray alto about! I am not sure how or if this relationship would work out! OK? I will pray for you to find that person GOD has for you! He has the perfect lady for you! YOU just have to ask him to help you find her! Best Wishes! I would let her go!

She's confused and full of fear. Been there. She has low self esteem. Been there too. If you really care about her, give her your support and make no judgements...you may not be getting the full story. Build up her self esteem. Be the shoulder she needs to cry on. When she's strong enough and her self esteem is high enough, she'll leave and she'll think more highly of you for what you did for her.