Is a 14 year age difference a big deal?

It depends on the maturity level of the people involved. Age is only a gauge. Fourteen years difference can be meaningless when people are mature. I know some people in their forties and fifties that are like perpetual children and others that are in their twenties that seem much older than their years. So, it just depends on the individuals. As long as your friend is being up front about his age, then I don't see a problem. If she likes him and doesn't care about the difference in age that is great. More power to them.

Your friend should definitely go for it. Age is not a problem here unless he makes it a problem. Society makes this such a big deal when it's not. So what he's almost 40. I would date him if he was 50 years old, just as long as we were compatible and a great match for each other. I can speak from experience with this. I'm 26 and I love older men always have because I have found the connection to be so great with them. My boyfriend is in his late thirties as well, and we are best friends. A person could miss out on their soulmate and a good life long partner if they let something like this hold them back. Tell your friend to go down there and have a great time. She's not going to care about his age if he's a great guy. Your friend sounds like a sweetie and tell him I said so too!!!! LOL!!!!

There is nothing wrong with this situation and your a good friend for supporting him with this.

No, not at that age. 14 and 28 would be waay wrong for obvious reasons. 18 and 32 would probably not be such a good idea maturity wise.

However, 25 and 39 "could" work. Its worth a try! To be honest, I'm 38 and I really cant see having much in common with a 25 year old outside of a friendship, but its definitely worth a go.

Good luck to your friend and Goddess Bless!

The difference between 25 and 39 isn't too much. But if one person is 25 and the other is 11 then it would be illegal. Once people finish school, the age difference isn't that big a deal.

I dated a guy 14 years older than me. It ended terribly. But that might not be the case for your friend. I think he should make this trip. I mean, why not? He'll never know what could have been and it wouldn't be fair for him to pass up an opportunity with someone he cares about just because of age.

the 14 year difference really depends on the people involved. people raised 14 years apart have large generation gaps in the area of childhood experiences. probably saw and learned very different parenting styles, and this can make starting a family very difficult. ( if one partner is 19 and the victim is 5 then 14 years can be a very big deal. )

I'm more concerned that he's "making a trip" than the age difference. I think 39 and 25 is just fine. Just as long as he sticks to my 3 year rule (date 3 years before even talking about moving in or marriage). You're friend sounds like he needs a crash course on how to tighten his game. If he had solid game he wouldn't need to take a trip anywhere, unless he lived in a sparsely populated area.

Rod

I'd go for it. The only time a 14 year age difference would be a big deal is if he was 14 yrs old.

I am 45 and my hubby is 31. The 14 year age difference is not a problem for us, however some of his friends are younger than he is, which makes me feel a little bit old!!!

I would say no.. 14 years is not a big deal.. My mom is married to a man who is 28 .. and shes 51.. they get along pretty good,, theyve been married for seven years.. Age is just a number, just don't lie to her.. tell her the truth.. if shes ok with it, then theres nothing at all wrong with it.