Any advice for a sad and lonely man? Serious answers only please.?

Sometimes it's really hard to make friends, but it won't happen if you just sit around and feel sorry for yourself. Get out of the house and make yourself available. Join a club or participate in some activity. Do volunteer work. Join a church. Invite people to your place. Hang out at the library, the mall, the skating rink, the health club, even the neighborhood bar, as a last resort. What I'm telling you is to go out among people and do something besides feeling so isolated. There are so many options available for singles, I'm surprised that you haven't taken advantage of all the opportunities that can lead to lasting friendships with men and women alike. Even at work there are probably people you could get acquainted with. If you're the shy and quiet type, getting involved in activities and projects will help you to forget about yourself and interact with others. Be approachable. Wear a friendly smile and don't be afraid to strike up a conversation with others. It might help to read books on developing self confidence. I know you can do it. I have faith in you! I'll bet there's someone special, just waiting for someone like you. There 's no need to be sad and lonely any more! Good luck!

I'm probably a whole lot younger than you because i'm still in high school but i can at least relate partly to what you feel because I am sad and lonely as well. I too feel like all i do is sleep and eat and work part time. It sucks don't it? You want to know more people but you just don't know how to go about doing it. I'm used to the fact now that i'm a loner because i've been one for most my life. I don't feel like I can relate to anybody therefore i never have much to say. If i could change one thing about me instantly I'd make myself more talkative and outgoing. I feel like I live on an island seperated from everyone else my age and there's nothing that can be done about it because it's just the way I am.

So don't worry you're not alone. Now you know there is at least one other person out there that is sad and lonely too.

Join a community service organization. It is a great way to get out, do something for the community you live in and meet people that also care about their community. Depending on the organization, you could go to a lot of different places and meet a lot of different people.

You can also take a class at the local community college. Find something that you are passionate about and become an expert. Women respond to passion about life.

You might also try to make a friend at work that you can hang out with.

I've learned that becoming comfortable with being alone takes the desperation away from your spirit when you approach someone for the first time. The trick is not to "need" it too much. Know that you are a wonderful person that is worth getting to know. Relax, be yourself and the person that you're meant to know will come into your life at just the right time.

You need to find some things to do in your local area. How about working out at a gym and trying to socialize. Put up a personal add online and see what happens there. Go for a walk in the park. If it is a nice day, read a book in the park until some nice looking woman comes along. Is there anyone at work you could date. Do you have an Internet cafe or coffee shop where you could set in hope of meeting someone? How about friends or family that could fix you up with someone? You do have to put some work into it.

Is it really meeting people that you need to do. Some people are alone but not lonely because they can stay happy just doing the things they like to do. Also if you want to meet people, you need to know what your interests are because it's easier to connect with people who share your interests. There are a lot of yahoo groups that you can join depending on your interests.

Sometimes it's when you're trying so hard to look that you can't find any. Try to be happy first with yourself, and then it may just be easier to attract friends.

I reserved this for last because I don't know your religious background: PRAYER! It's actually the most powerful tool when you are down. Of course, you have to believe.

Why don't you sign up for a class or join a club? Volunteer work (SPCA if you like animals, Boys & Girls Clubs if you like kids, etc) is also a great way to get to know people. I know it's hard, but you need to get out of the house if you're lonely. People aren't going to show up magically at your door. And at the risk of sounding harsh, try to do something about the "sad" part, too. People are attracted to happy people, so if you want to attract people you need to at least SEEM like you're happy.

Sit on here with the rest of us, you meet lots of interesting people, or join a chat room. Technology has made it so easy to occupy our time honey. The only way you could possibly be lonely is if you choose to be. Unless you have three jobs and literally only have time to work, sleep and eat, then you have no excuse to get out their and start living. We only get one shot at this and time's a wasting!

Find something that you like to do that people do in groups. Go work out. Join a club. Take a class to learn a hobby or to learn about something that interests you. Volunteer. develop some interests and activities. Get active, meet people.

Try going to church. Some churches have singles groups - if you looking for decent people to hang around with that won't bring you down. Meet a nice girl and have some kids. Kids give your life meaning, joy, and happiness. God Bless.

Find a hobby, get a pet, join a community group, take a college class, take up tennis or golf. Use your imagine. Just stay away from the 800 numbers and those hot chicks that IM and email you from Nigeria and Ghana.