Should I stay with a man who cheated with my sister?

Wow that is sooooooo low!!!!!

I recommend you find a good professional counselor that can help you thru these issues. Don't take the husband. Do this for YOURSELF. Trust has been broken so badly it will take much effort to get thru this. After you have evaluated the pros & cons of staying with a cheater then you can make a decision.

Your sis must have low self-esteem and feel jealous of you if she resorted to doing that! She needs a life and some dignity. She's pitiful. Right now you deserve your space to try to figure this out. They should not make demands on you!

Goodness NO!!!! A man who would come between sisters is no man at all! (That is regardless of whether you have any children.) And your sister??? What your sister did to you was terrible.. If either of my sisters did that to me... I can't admit in public what I would want to do with them... and I can't fathom how I would actually go about resolving the situation in any manner. The children should be protected, but you should never go back to that man. Remember.. what he did to you was bad enough.. but he was also being a terribly selfish person.. He wasn't just having some sex with another attractive woman.. He wasn't just hurting you... He was hurting and tearing apart an entire family.. and having him around the children - especially if they know or find out what happened.. if you don't stand up to what he did to you now, they will learn that this is fine behavior and they may eventually turn out like him. Show them the strength that you have within you and the love you have for your children. Get a lawyer, get custody of the children, change the situation for the future - for the better NOW!

As for your sister.. she's blood.. she's family.. and even if the both of you want to avoid each other forever, you probably can't without tearing apart the rest of the family and inadvertently hurting the children forever - after all.. they are at a great growing stage and probably very perceptive to what's going on between all around them. Go to a counsellor.. get some real professional advice as to what you should do in this situation.. Online anonymous answers can only be of so much help.

Good luck to you. Be strong.

daj11551 gave you some good advice.

you have the freedom to choose.

Personally I'd base the decision on a number of factors---a combination of things that together either have you dreamy in love again, or realizing you are in hell.

- Is the communication getting better?

- Are you both actively listening to each other?

- Are you willing to compromise in helping him keep the relationship with you?

- Are you aware of his intense compromises to keep the relationship with you?

- Do you FEEL like things are getting better?

- Do you FEEL like he is positively and energetically paying attention to you?

- Do you believe he is telling you the truth, and the complete truth?

I could go on, but there are your own questions to include here as well. Take things rationally, one sensible step at a time. Avoid the tendency to whine and complain about it all being bad.

As for your sister...... well, you could do the decent thing and offer her your sisterly love, and forgiveness, if you GET the impression from her that questions like those above are receiving the RIGHT answers from her.

Take care and I wish you well!

honey get with the program she is your sister how nasty for her since she is the blood relative she should have never gone there but your husband is a pig and he is gonna always do what he does. and your sister might not be the first in your family or your friends if he fuc*ed your sister then he has know respect and that means he must have been doing this for a very long time not just with her but god knows who else. you know the answer know just run and go or stay and pray you never catch anything and just put up with the life he has created for you and your girls , for the sake of your daughters you should really reconsider your choices because they should not be growing up with such nastiness and you should not be either lol

That really sucks, I know the feeling, same thing happened to me. Just from experience I threw his a$$ out and still don't speak to my sister. The relationship is ruined between her and I. He not only broke up our family but he also broke the Sister bond between her and I. Don't get me wrong because I blame her also. But Men can come and go , Sisters are hard to come by. Good Luck

Face it lady, you have nothing to offer anyone else and your Sister did all those Anal Oral exciting things you would not. Best to shut up and learn to experiment a bit more, lose a few pounds and stop the arguing and whining. Becasue your future looks decidedly gloomy from here. Tone up, work at those techniques and be more submissive, you MAY just have a chance.

I'm sorry this happened to you honey. If you want to stay with him, that is only your decision. If you want to stay, insist that you both get counseling together and separately. Get everything off your chest so you are clear with hubby. Forget sis until you are ready for her. If you don't want to stay with him, call the atty, tell him to leave and be ready to go thru life without him. Your kids won't understand and they also will blame you from time to time. Be prepared for that. But do what you need to do. Take a couple of days & think about it with no one around and don't take any calls from hubby or sis.

So many people need to include their children like it matters. Do you think he is a good role model for them? Cheating on his wife, (not to mention with their aunt?) I'm sorry, but to me this is a ridiculus question. Of course you should not stay with him. Can you ever have sex with him again and not think about them together? Are you prepared to forgive him and not throw it in his face everytime you fight? Is he prepared to be totally transparent and let you know ever move he makes so you can begin to trust him again?? If so then maybe it will work, but I couldn't forget or forgive.

No, divorce now and tell your whole family what a cheapster your sister is. Divorce him NOW, trust me. This is digusting and you dont deserve this. Spend time with your kids and a friend. Don't let these two low people get to you. Never look at them or talk to them. Just divorce your husband, tell the whole family about your hypocrite sister and do yoga!

No do not stay with him. You need to leave him. If your b/f/husband and sister loved you they wouldn't of done this to you. Move on with your life. Find someone who will be true to you and your children. They always say once a cheater always a cheater. Good luck.