what do you do........?

I'm going to take the easy way out and answer with a quote. "If you love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours forever. If it doesn't it was never yours in the first place." Give him a chance to see what life without you is like. Better yet, give yourself a chance to see what it feels like to not have to wonder if he really loves you or not. You'll be really sad at first but soon you're going to feel so liberated because you took your life into your hands and made a decision for you, not for him. Love is wonderful and it should be wonderful all the time, for both of you. Love and the words "empty inside" just don't belong in the same sentence. Good Luck.

Poor thingapparently no one wants to say the obvious , and that is that no matter how much you love him , you cannot make him love you , and if he did truly love you , then he would not feel empty inside , love fills you and warms the soul , and cannot be sustained on a one way street , and if 5 years was not enough then you have to go , at least for a trial seperation , so that he can either have a wake up call and see what he is missing , or realize that he needs to move on , cause the casual sex is no longer around . Now either you are willing to risk losing him and finding out where his heart truly lies or you can continue to be his doormat , I have to believe that you would deserve and want better for yourself . Good luck darlin

Well if talking to him does no good, then tell him exactly what he's losing and what he will lose if he doesn't make some changes. Five years is a long time to just throw away so I definitely think you should warn him of what will happen.