i want to know what you think about this?

Congratulations on being a Muslim and being engaged to an Egyptian also. I am also married to an Egyptian and they make very good husbands. I became a Muslim after my marriage and my husband Mido has been very patient with me and good so I am sure that you will find the same in yours as well. Inshallah.

As for the lady you cannot get upset about the ignorance of people. We lived in Saudi Arabia for 2 1/2 years and when I came back to the USA( because of the war with Iraq, we were very close to the border) I tried to open a checking account with a large amount of cash that I had brought back with me to find a home and buy a car and keep me until I found a job. They refused because they said since the money had come from Saudi Arabia it was probably coming from a terrorist organization. Why a terrorist organization would want to go to Farmington, N.M. I don't know, but they continued to refuse to even after I spoke to the manager. I let it upset me at first but then I realized that if I let it get to me that they win with their ignorance and intolerance. So the only thing that you can do is laugh about it. Salaam and I wish you much happiness in your marriage.

Unfortunately you'll probably run in to more of this kind of thing. I work in security and there have been several times this last year when someone breached the gate where I work and the hairs go up on the back of my neck (especially when it was a plain unmarked white box truck).

It's no walk in the park to have someone think that YOU might be up to something either. The only advice I have to offer is forgive that person because from their side of it they are anticipating the worst. Given the hightened activity of terrorists in the past few years, people in high profile jobs such as hers, that is dealing with packages all the time, one can never be too careful. She may have gone through a training coarse on what to look for regarding suspicious packages or people which may have caused her to be a little paranoid while working. Did you create an air of suspicion (you may not have been aware of it at the time) that could have caused her to come to that conclusion? Regardless, I hope she apologized for her misunderstanding. If she didn't, forgive her anyway and let her get to know who you are i.e. have a conversation when you're there, repeated visits will allow her to get familiar with you etc. and most importantly, explain to her why you're there all the time and what kind of business you're in and that you have no intension of ever hurting anyone. That will help her understand where you're coming from and help reduce the stereotype that if you're Egyptian or Muslim you're bad.

Part of me also wants to count the possibility of small town mentality which usually consists of rumors and neighbors getting up in your personal business. Been there, done that!

In my line of work, security at a large global corporation, I see people from all over the world. Two things I have learned are 1) you can never be too trustworthy when dealing with trespassors or suspicious people and 2) criminals come in all shapes, colors and sizes... there's no such thing as boundaries when it comes to those who are up to no good; but, only through experience and familiarity will cultures and people begin to understand one another. While from your point of view you were conducting everyday business- even routine, from her point of view she was looking out for everyone in the vicinity and had it been another person the same thing could have happened. So don't take it personally (I know that's hard to do) and get to know her and let her get to know you even if it's just in a professional way through doing business and this incident will soon be long behind the both of you.

Hope this helps... have a great day!!!

Unfortunately, because of the world we live in now days, some people are very afraid. Until things change it's just gonna get worse.

I'm Puertorican. Some of my fellow countryman who have not lived in the states for very long, and have a heavy accent have had a hard time after 9/11. Most of us accept it as a part of enjoying the life that we have here. We are born US citizens, and understand that Muslim extremist are always looking for a way of destroying us. If it means having to be questioned or having to miss our flight, because we were held up by security, than it's a small price to pay...

I don't completely understand the dynamics of everything therefore I can't really understand her perspective, but what made you think she "thought it was a bomb?" Did she say that? Maybe it was just the way he reaproached the counter?

Nevertheless, the country is on edge, for sure. And she has probably been watching mandatory videos about "How to spot a bomb or a terrorist, etc..." through her government employer.

She is obviously emotional and on edge. I would just ignore it and avoid her line next time. Perhaps contact higher ups and suggest that they teach COMPOSURE with PROTOCOL and remind them that CUSTOMER SERVICE should still be their number one priority, because they shouldn't want to scare everyone into using other shippers.

She is paranoid. America is paranoid. It can all be for the 'right' reasons or the wrong reasons. How did she know you were muslim>>? It is sad but a fact now we are dealing with but most ignorant people associate muslim with terrorist. I don't. I too am Native American and I deal with things that go along with being who I am as well. But that has got to hurt and I am sorry that you had to experience that.

I think the Post office Lady is having emotional problems, perhaps you could forgive Her as She sounds like a troubled Soul; You never know what the burden of another Person may be.

To the Muslim asker, be reminded of a saying of the Holy Prophet," A time shall come when to recite just the Kalima shall earn as much award as you(the Prophet's companions) hope to earn." The Companions were startled," We did hijrat we joined you in ghazwa, we were oppressed in Makka; how come they shall earn as much?" The Prophet clarified, : In that time, just a pronouncement of Kalima shall be that difficult". In some localities of our world, some Muslims are already living the 'Makki Life; not the Madni life... that is, keeping their faith secretly.

it is a very devastating thing we americans have been through and our minds aren't completely back together yet,so you must forgive us for acting in such frantic ways because i can catch the city bus and think the talaban man is going to blow up the bus when he was commuting to work, like everybody else

im sure they meant no harm at the post office we are still reacting from past and foreigners still give us a jilt at times sorry harmless mistake.

Well Sweetheart, welcome to an unfair world.

It will take many years of Muslims like you doing all you can to stop Muslims like the woman thought you were. You will have to clean this mess up. Muslims are a problem all over this world. You need to change Islam. That is the only help you can be. If you people don't fix the problems in your religion soon, the world will get worse. If you don't fix Islam, then Islam is going to fix you.

Bombs usualy COME from Egypt, they aren't sent there! Not at least without a live carrier!

If someone in Egypt wants a bomb, they can find one a lot easier than in the US!