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WTF is he up to?

My ex (we have a son 2 yoa) asks me to go out to a movie with him, and then takes me for drinks afterwards. I figured he had something major to 'break' to me and didn't want a scene. Nope. It was strangely date like. I did take the opportunity to talk to him about the girl he's always with when he picks up or drops off our son. He finally admits that they are fu<king, but no emotions involved. I told him if it wasn't too much to ask maybe not to include her in his occasional 4 hour visit. I suggested maybe just hanging out with Koen instead of always having his fu<kpile around. He agreed, and tried to get me to talk about our past relationship, reminise if you will. WTF? Why does he feel the need to introduce our child to every woman he bangs? Why does he want to take me out and reminise? He's messing with me again isn't he? He's just trying to hurt me and keep rubbing it in my face? How can I rise above this and not be bothered by him or or our past? I have to see him often, 2-3x/week

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    First of all if he was just banging her then he would not have her with him every time he picks up your son. And yes I feel that he is just messing with you. Guys are dogs and when they see that you are happy and moving on they try to come back in the picture and screw your whole life up. You have to think to yourself every time that you see him that you don't want him back because he is sleeping around and you don't need that if he really wanted you back he would not being doing what he is doing with these other girls. Also he know that every time he picks up your son and has her in the car that your son will tell you that is playing games and if he can have all these ho's around your son then he is not really a man.

  • 1 decade ago

    Don't hang out. He probably couldn't find a girl for that night so he thought he would try for you. He is not worth it. But you do have the right to ask him not to subject your kid to having to meet a differnt girl every week or more. It is not a good way for the kid to see a dad. Move on and only see him on the days you have to.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well, do you want your sons to be like him ? Do you want your sons to be brought up as a moral and ethnically rightful person.

    If that is the case, then I think you should discuss what happen after each visits. Teach them what is right and wrong. Teach them ethnics and values. If not, then one day they may think it is ok to just bang around and not respecting ladies.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You are absolutely right he is just messing with you and trying to make you jealous. You never mentioned being interested in him so just keep it business about the kid and no more going out on dates with him how about you find yourself someone else.

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  • 1 decade ago

    no matter how things turn out. once a couple has a child, there is still a strange bond with the couple, even though they are seeing others. he might be screwing others, but may still have some feelings for you that is deep seated.

  • 1 decade ago

    He probably feels guilty, talking about the past is a great way for him to connect and communicate in his own way, {he's missing you}

    He is probably sincere in his ways he just

    doesn't know the "right" way to approach the situation.

  • 1 decade ago

    maybe he thinks you are mature enough to realize he's moved on, and doesnt want hard feelings. just beacuse people break up doesnt mean they have to be mean to eachother, ir be uncivil.

    i think hes doing his part at being civil. and i see nothing wrong with having your son meet his fuckbuddies, as long as he doesnt show them what they are doing. or they are in some way a negative influence

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    he's just an a**hole trying to show off and make you jealous. D.O.G. i say f**k him and do the same to him by telling him about your sexual experiences w/another guy and see how he takes it. i'll bet he won't be too happy to hear about it making him stop that bulls**t!

  • 1 decade ago

    yea he is just being a real JERK! its gonna be hard, but try not to let him get to you! tell him you dont want your child around all those different women.

  • 1 decade ago

    He wants yo, not her, but he is too immature to tell you so.

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