help and guidance preferably from wiccans and spiritual seekers?

There are spells that would work, but I really feel that you'd be better off dealing with this in a more straightforward means. Don't get me wrong; I am a practicing Wizard, and have been for some many years. I feel very strongly that this situation is really a test for you to endure. Your patience is certainly being tested. But look at your posting for a second...it is obvious that you are hurt and angry. This is exactly what he wants from you since you will not marry him. What of the rumors, now? Who is he telling his lies to? Are these people actively whispering behind thier hands as you pass by, or do they tell you what he has said? A rumor only has effect if you let it. Sure, they can be nasty lies, but those who know you will know better. He only traps himself. This is better than a spell! Your prayers will work, but not if they include endangerment. Pray that he finds the light and truth of who and what he is. Ask God to forgive him and show him the way. This is a great spell, indeed! As far as your comment about his self respect goes, well, he has none, you know? If you want to have something that might help, were a piece of jewelry with some malachite in it; this wards off negativity, as does hematite. You have the upper hand, as you always have. Now, this test, which I believe this is, has been revealed to you in dreams before. I believe that you saw this coming, but you didn't know what the dreams meant. Look back into those strange dreams you had just before this guy came into the picture. They may make some sense to you now. Good Luck!

<<i feel like making a deep prayer /wish that some kind of emotional harm like to his self reslect may befall him soon>>

With that one line, you have likely lost the support of all Wiccans who read this. Spells for revenge are a violation of the Rede, and any serious Wiccan would not be interested in helping you harm another.

<<its from the very depth of my heart as i cannot take anymore>>

Ever consider that the negative energy that you're feeding into this thing is what's coming back to you? Walk away and let it go.

In the book To Stir a Magick Cauldron by Silver Ravenwolf there is a spell that I did along time ago called "Separating Yourself from a Problem or Person". It worked. The guy was crashed out on my back porch after we told him he couldn't stay at our house and by the time the candles burnt out he was gone and we didn't see him for a whole year. When I did run into him he was polite and he never again came to my home.

The spell is on page 222, its very easy and doesn't require alot of stuff to do it, just a silver bell, long black ribbon, 2 black candles, black gloves and scissors. You can use just about anything for a cauldron, including a metal bowl, just don't burn yourself on it.

I would go to your local legal aid society and find out about a "cease and desist" letter. Basically telling him if he does not stop with all this slander - you will be pursuing the matter legally.

Another way to handle this would be to talk to the guy's mother. Explain it all to her - and ask her if she would speak to him and ask him to stop.

You said this guy was a colleague - so you work together basically --- you should have a personnel director of some kind that you can talk to about this situation. Don't just give up on it. The man needs to learn how to be professional.

You are letting your own heart be poisoned. Instead try to send him happiness and good thoughts. Pray for him every day. Light candles and send happiness his way. Imagine sparks of light and joy going from you to him. Trust me this will hurt you the most. You reap what you sow and getting involved in punishing other people and teaching them lessons is not the best path in life for you or anyone. Clean your heart an make it pure. Pour compassion out for his hurting soul. Don't talk to him or get involved on the earth plane. Just soften your heart towards the person.

You shouldn't use spells for that kind of thing. You should take action.

One way might be to say, whenever you are made aware of the rumors, "If I'm so bad, why did he try so hard to marry me?"

You could also make an appointment with HR and discuss the problem. They may take some disciplinary action on him, because it's basically harrassment.

Well, something I will out and out disagree with: "This is the satisfactory identified element of the Wiccan Rede" No, that IS the Wiccan Rede in it is entirety.... Don't confuse the Wiccan Rede (eight phrases) with that lengthy dreary poem "The Rede of the Wiccae" wherein it's quoted (I have continually hated that drivel myself). But the leisure of my ideas, you'll be able to take or go away for what it's valued at; I'll move factor via factor: The Wiccan Rede is: 'An (If, honestly; in archaic language) it Harm None, Do What You Will. a million) I consider we ought to take it from in which it comes: A Wiccan in approximately 1970 stated it. The very phrase "rede" method "recommendation"... that is all it's... recommendation; from one Wiccan; that many Wiccans have embraced. It isn't a Wiccan commandment. It isn't dogma. It's no longer even required. two) Context: it says If you are no longer harming some thing, do what you're going to. It does not say "damage none" and in "do not you ever do some thing any damage!" After all, if that was once the case, how would police or the navy safeguard us? How would we preserve ourselves? There is not anything in Wicca that bills us to be pacifists. three) It is unattainable to "Harm None" due to the fact at any time when you blow your nostril you're harming microbes. To construct your residence you're harming weeds, insects, and many others. To deliver your youngster existence-saving photographs, harms the youngster to some degree. There isn't any strategy to damage none, and considering the fact that the Wiccan rede does not even say that, there turns out no factor in taking it so rigidly and actually four) What is extra foremost to Wicca than the Rede is honestly utilizing your head and staring at nature-- in nature, persons are omnivores. We are facet of the existence cycle... so if you do not desire to devour meat, that's your individual alternative. But there may be not anything in Wicca that stops me from consuming meat. five) Abortion: depends upon while you outline existence establishing; I do not outline it earlier than it's possible... it is simply expertise existence. Frankly, that might be like pronouncing chemotherapy harms the melanoma cells so we cannot get remedy. Frankly, I consider the rede is an excessive amount of taken out of context and a long way too over-quoted and dealt with like a few "Wiccan Commandment" whilst it in no way was once, and in no way was once intended to be that. Because of that, I do not be anxious over each and every little factor in existence. Wicca teaches me to make use of my head and my judgment of right and wrong to stability and weigh out each and every trouble... Wicca isn't a faith of absolute morals; morality is subjective and we're all charged to make use of the brains we got to make offerings, no longer blindly adhere to eight phrases of dogma (or a particularly crappy poem).

There's something you need to realize about thoughts. Thoughts are energy and it has a boomarang effect. When you start thinking negatively toward someone like wishing them harm, the negativity comes back to you. You'd be better off wishing the opposite on him. Wish he finds someone to fall in love with, wish him positivity and wish him that he heals. I know what he did to you sucks, but you won't be doing yourself any good by trying to put a spell or hex on him. It won't be worth it...for you.

Whether or not he has done this before...who appointed you judge and jury to his punishment? Vengeance is mine, saith the Lord! You are not even the instrument.

Natural law dictates the karmic effect of his actions...not in your time but in God's time. In the meantime, you might remember: sucess is the best revenge.

Try a simple visualization that sees him in a bubble of protective colour so that he will have something else to work with, rather than his angers.

Anger = red

Spirit = white

Together = pink = love

In this way, he can be helped without any false vengeance.

Dear, stop, think. Serenity now. There are hateful, evil and rotton people in the world. You do not want to be one of them! You are sensitive, sweet and good. Do not sell yourself out for this evil creature. You can rise above the occasion. Do some spiritual meditation. Ask God for the serenity to accept what you cannot change, courage to change the things you can and the wisdom to know the difference. One can only put out of them that which is in them. If you start dwelling on negative energy and become bitter and hateful...you become that type of evil being. You are much greater than that. I believe what you really are searching for..is a way to resolve the feelings without being bitter. I suggest that you turn this over to God. Pray good for this person. If you pray or wish bad on him...you are connecting and calling evil spirits...you need good to you not bad. Try to have good thoughts and good actions. You will reap good if you think and live good. Trust me Dear, I have experienced much learning in life through my spiritual journey. Let me be a sister in Christ to you. Peace to you! God will have justice, it is not for us to enforce but him! Trust!