What is your opinion between vengeance and not forgiveness?and why we don't like to forgive?

Forgiveness is easier in the long run, but people prefer vengeance because they are very emotional and prefer to think with their heart instead of their head.

Revenge is a waste of time; it might make you feel good for a little while, but you could have been doing something cooler instead.

When someone has done a wrong against you, and you are unable to forgive, it is ok to no longer want anything to do with the person who harmed you or wronged you. That is to not forgive. Vengeance is when you want to hurt or do wrong against the person that wronged you. Vengeance is wrong in any form. Today people do want to retaliate against anyone and everyone that does them wrong. Boy would you blow a person away if you said I forgive you, and then just let it go. An example of that is the incident with the amish schoolhouse, where a sick person went in an killed innocent people. The amish have forgiven this man who not only killed some young girls, but raped and molested them. You ask how can they forgive? They believe it is gods will and that none of us are perfect so how can we persecute another. I cant help but think the amish have it right. Just my opinion.

I think they both have our place in society. Our judicial system works on the principle of vengeance. An eye for an eye. Of course, vengeance can also occur outside of the courts as well. I have had someone close to me be a crime victim. The offender went unpunished. I understand the desire for vengeance. I wanted it for her, but like most law abiding citizens, I curb my desire. Forgiveness is harder to do than vengeance. It requires an inner peace with what has happened. Some people never get there. When you forgive, you move on. It is so hard to move on when you feel a situation has not been resolved. That is why people have a hard time with forgiveness.

Forgiveness is the only way to make a clean break with a harm done, whether to you or by you. To forgive means to put it away from you, to set it aside. Vengeance is to embrace all that is bad about a situation and plant it firmly into your own heart. Seeking revenge will only end in emptiness. When you think you have it, there is no fulfillment, and quite often remorse that now there is an emptiness where once there was such great passion,(hate, anger). It is however, perfectly natural to have that carnal, human, desire for vengeance. Very kin to GREED, and avarice.

Read a sign in front of a church..saying "Never carry a grudge..The weight gets heavier every step". I am myself struggling to forgive. People don't enjoy forgiving..for the simple fact that it makes them feel weak. In reality..to forgive someone will allow you to be free of the control they have on you. No matter what..forgiveness is more potent than revenge. Revenge will eat you alive...and may cause you more trouble than you are willing to defy. To forgive is one thing..to forget yet another. If you carry 10 bricks of revenge and forgive 10 bricks worth of angry distaste for another's actions...watch as your shoulders applaud, in unison w/ your mind.

I think most of us forgive but, we don't forget. Hate and vengeance are exhausting emotions. They drain the people who keep them in their hearts. Most of us experience them for awhile but, these emotions have huge appetites and I for one, do not want to feed them. I would rather forgive. I don't preach, this is just how I feel.

Reword it. This question can have many contexts. The only clear part of the question ,"why we don't like to forgive."

Its simple really, when we're wounded, like animals we lash out in vengence. Its not that we like not forgiving but rather pain makes it difficult to forgive.

I believe, "Vengeance is mine" saith the Lord.

It is best to forgive than to have never forgiven at all.

Putting a craven calumnious piece of sh*t in the hospital is vengeance. Unforgiveness does not put him in the hospital.

For me, vengenance was when my next door neighbor finally moved, after 10 years. He was an uneducated red neck who thought because he had a gang of drunk red neck friends, he could do anything he wanted, anytime he wanted, to anyone in our neighborhood. I kept calling the police, code enforcement, ANYONE I could think of to keep "hammering him back into the hole he crawled out of." Finally after 10 years - I WON - HE MOVED!

Not forgiveness I direct toward my mother. SHE owned the lot next to mine. I bought both lots, sold one to her for $1 so she could retire and live next door to me when she got older. The VERY NEXT DAY she put a for sale sign on the lot! AND then would not give it back to me. She wanted me to buy the lot from her (excuse me, I already bought it the first time!). She wanted TOO MUCH for the lot, more than it was worth, so she did not pay the taxes, our "neighbor from hell" got the lot for TAXES ONLY, and moved next door to me. 10 years of hell. Sorry, I can never forgive my mother for that!!