to everyone that has more than one child...?

as a mom of 3 i must admit i do treat each of my boys differently - my oldest is almost 11 and he is my since he is my first hes my shopping, going out buddy, and my helper w/ the 2 younger boys - my 3 yr old is the easiest to take out w/ me for a quick errand and he is bright so we read alot together, now my baby (2yr old) is my snuggle buddy - we love to cuddle and play together and he does seem to get most of my attention. I must say it is a hard balance but i do love all 3 very much ,but you do tend to lean towards the one whom you share the most in common with, all kids have their own personality and you connect w/ them differently.

I have three and do not have a favorite. I think that you have a different bond with each child. Not one bond is greater than another, just diff rent. That's what makes being a mommy so much fun! Of course as they get older one might stick by his or her parents more than the other so of course the relationship with that child will be different from the one who may not come around. I believe that God made us parents in his own image, he loves each and everyone of us the same just as we do our children. I don't know how anyone could have a favorite. This would be so hurtful for a child. Don't worry about having another child after your first, I am sure you have enough love to give them both equally! God bless and congrats on the new baby!!!

Well to be honest i don't have a favorite. However, I know that you bond or feel a connection better with one child more than the other. My parents I thought didn't have a favorite but my mom told me that she felt a stronger connection to me since I was the only girl.I feel that both my children are my favorite. My hubby says that he loves both of our kids but has a better bond with the youngest. My sister in law has a favorite not that her kids would know. It depends on the pregnancy experience as well. Her last pregnancy was an oops and it wasn't fun either so she has a little hesitation toward her son. Not that he can tell. So I think that you love you children but you sometimes connect better with one then the other

My ex-friend has two kids and she says that her youngest is her favorite.... and you can tell. She had her first kid when she was sixteen and she didn't really want him. She yells at him, treats him poorly, and is just plain mean to him. Her youngest, on the other hand, can't do anything wrong. He's her little star. She tells the older he "deserves" it when the younger one beats him up, but if the elder did the same thing for the same reason, it's an a55 beating from hell, time out, AND corner time. Then he has to apoligize to the younger one.

I know I'm not there to see everything, but I did spend a lot of time over at her house because our kids used to play together a lot. I don't take my child over there anymore because the only thing she does is cuss in front of her kids, ridicule the oldest, and is still kind of mean to the youngest..... she spanks a lot (which I don't think is bad) but for the wrong reasons. Out of losing control....

Anyway, I'm ranting now and getting way off subject. In some cases people do have a favorite child, in others, they don't. My mom always said she loves the three of us the same, but I never saw it that way. I'm 26 now and I still feel like she loves my younger brother and sister more than me. Are you the oldest too? We are always the guinea pig kids..... they figure out which parenting stategies work and which ones don't on us..... lol.

No fave - there just can't be. I've heard moms say that, too, and I don't understand it. My sister has a favorite amongst her two girls, and makes it really obvious - we always feel so sad for the other one. It's really ignorant of the parent to do this.

My mom had six of us, and I think each of us at any point assumed or thought she had favorites. The last thing she told me as she lay dying was: "I loved you all the same."

I do have a favorite. My youngest, the baby girl, b/c now that she's here I'm not the only woman in the family. She's only 10 months old, but still, she loves hanging out with the girls. When my sister comes over, she likes to stay with us in the bathroom while we do our hair and make up, versus staying in the living room with daddy and two older brothers.

I love her the most b/c she's sensitive like me, she would rather have me than her daddy, usually when daddy has her she can't take her eyes off of me. I can relate to her, we just have this bond that me and my boys didn't/don't have.

Although, I love my boys to death, but my babygirl is my favorite.

And my parents had their favorites. I was my dad's favorite, my little brother was my mother's favorite.

There have been short periods in which it has been true. Kids go through different phases and when you have more than one child one of the is bound to be "cute" when the other is being "devilish". Some of these phases are quite endearing, and that child "becomes your favorite" because you want to enjoy every moment of that "cuteness".

I can honestly say that on an everyday basis, all three of my kids are my favorite.....some days more than others.

I have never shown a difference in my children...That is one thing that just drives me nuts about my parents and my grandparents (bless their hearts they have since passed away) My grandparents had 14 grand-children and out of all of us, my younger brother was their favorite. He wasn't the oldest or the youngest, but he's the one who got to go on vacation with them, all over the country, he would spend the night at there house more than any of the others all the rest of us were pushed aside so to speak. My mother tends to try to do the same thing with MY SON. My parents have 10 grand-children, I have two of them, one boy, one girl. My mother tries to buy my son things that she would never buy for the other kids. She tries to get me to let him spend the weekend at their house, without even asking my daughter if she would like to come as well. It's wrong!! It pits one child against the other, it causes one child to feel "left out", why would you want to make any child feel like they are more important, or LESS important, than the other one....It just drives me up a wall!!! Thank you for allowing me some "venting space" on your questions.

I wouldn't say a favorite, I treat all my kids equally. I know for sure I am closer to my last 2 then my first 2 and that is only because I had them when I was young and not mature(but I work on that everyday) but I dont treat my kids diffrently.

I have a friend that does this. She says how good her son is why can't her daughter be more like her son- and she does it right in front of her. She says I wish I had two boys- it's awful. I have two sons- who are complete opposites. I can't imagine loving one more than the other. I love them for different things. They are not the same, but my love for them is. I guess if you have one hellion and then a perfect angel this may be a reason why people have favorites- but that is just going to make the hellion act out more.