I am recently seperated and my 11 year old son is having a hard time with it. Any suggestions?

Don't blame or accuse ur husband in front of the kid. Let dad play a part in his life and make sure he visits dad often enough, and give dad enough chance to show him his love.

please continue to be supportive of your son's needs, I'm glad to hear he gets to see his father, that is a plus, keep open channels of communication with your son as well as his father, you two are still his parents, as long as the both of you let him know he is loved and this is not about him,eventually he will be able to accept the apart-ness, but right now it is very difficult for him to understand,please don't do like my wife did and fill his head full of crap about his dad, that will only make matters worse ans he will become more confused, and the father should not talk about you negatively around him either, everything has to be positive, even if things don't work out between you and your husband, if he continues to have problems with this don't hesitate to get family counseling, it will help, but it takes everyone to want the best for the children, there cannot be any one sided selfishness involved. good luck!!

Explain to him whats going on and that the love for him isnt gone, just the life together withmom and dad as one in the house is gone. But he is loved by both the same. Answer all his questions honestly. He will be okay with it in time, but I know hes really sad and wondering why things happen like this, but reassure him he will be fine.

Try and spend more time with him. Or let him spend more time with his father. Maybe even try and have a family day with the father and you and the boy at least once a month. It may be hard but bite your tongue. That is what my folks did and all is fine now. The boy just might be scared and this may calm him down.

Take him to speak with a counselor so he does not have vented up anger. Explain to him that both you and your husband love him, it is just that you are unable to live together. This has nothing to do with him personally. children understand more than we give them credit for. Hopefully, his father is continuing to spend time with him as before and he can also reassure him, the break up has nothing to do with him, and the love for him is the same. Good luck and God bless

HI!

If this is possible have him see his dad as much as possible. CHildren always suffer. THis is a tough age for him. Talk to his dad and be sure you two make his life a priority!!!

Make sure to keep reinforcing that IT ISN'T HIS FAULT.

Kids have a way of thinking that they are responsible for everything.

Maybe you should get him some counseling for that.

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