Should we decline the birthday party invitation?

It's very nice for them to invite you but you are not obligated to attend or even send a gift. You babysat him a long time ago and you are uncomfortable going to the party. I'm sure the parents would be okay if you didn't show up if you let them know why.

That's a wonderful idea. It's not rude to decline the invitation as they are probably inviting you out of habit anyway to be polite. Decline politely, and send a small gift and a card.

Maybe you could decline the invite and send a small gift but, if she seems too upset that you declined maybe you could change your mind I mean maybe it really means something to him that you go. Kids can be like that. So, if it seems important that you be there, once you decline you could always change your mind before it gets too late. But, if they seem ok with it then just send a gift.

I think that's perfectly acceptable. You're under no obligation to continue to attend as you've been out of the picture for several years now. It would be different is you had maintained some type of relationship with the child or parents but haven't. As kind as it is to be invited, it's a tad bit odd to invite people you really have no contact with.

Yes, declining and sending a gift is a good idea.

I think its fine to decline, and a nice idea to go ahead and send him a gift.

If the child remembers and enjoys seeing you, I'd stop by for a short period of time. If he doesn't then don't go and it is just a nice jester to send a gift. You really don't have to.

you are being a fifth wheel now, let go gift or not and you won't be missed. it's not an obligation and most people would have broken it off after the first year (unless you are lonely)

Yea I definitly wouldn't go. I hate going to gatherings like that where you don't know anybody and everyone is looking at you because they don't know you. Send your regrets and a gift.

sure 6 yr olds don't care who comes to the party just that they get games and cake and presents,