How can i survive, if i'm goin to break up with the man i've loved so much? please help.?

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we are almost 3 yars. we are now living in thesame roof for a year now. he is married. i'm a widow .mother of 3. i've been dedicated to him. his wife knows everything but she just ignore us. We rented an apartment. Most of the time, i made all the expenses.things changed. he never gave me flowers. if he was drunk ,he backfired my past relationship.i can no longer bear a child. he didn't know it, coz i'm afraid he might left me. he is inconsistent. he lied. he alaways told me that he will find another girl if i'm goin to leave him. lots of girls outside waiting for him. i know he is not having an affair with other girl. but, i was mentally battered by him. he attempted to leavre me and pack up. i kneeled and beg to stay. he even gave nothing in my birthday last september. i love him. i'm willing to sacrifice everything. but i wanted to break up with him. but how? i was used to live my life with him. please help. please.

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i just do not know, what will be my first move to leave him. i know it is hard. i'm helpless. i'm shattered.

Akai · Accepted Answer

I don't know if your children live with you or not, but letting a man treat you like this will set a BAD example to them. He doesn't love you the way you deserve it. I'll say leave him. Even though you love him very much and you'll have a broken heart, leave him. He doesn't pay for expenses, get drunk, abbuse you mentally, doesn't treasure you and your relationship, lied, etc. That's BAD for you. Get out from this relationship. Don't worry about your future. You'll find a man that treat you right. Now, you have to treat yourself and your kids right first. If he wants to leave and pack his things, let him go. DON'T sacrifice everything, not your life, not your kid's future, not your future. You'll get used to a new better life without him.

Nessta_185 · Answer

Wow...what a situation you've gotten yourself into. I don't understand how you can live with a married man...but ok. Anyway, it seems you're obviously more committed to him than he is to you. Why let him degrade you? I think you should break up with him, but how, you ask? You have to tell him how you feel about everything. Let him know your emotions. If he doesn't care, that's your cue to leave. Why stay with him if he doesn't care? Sure you love him, but by staying with him, you will hurt more and more. So talk it through with him, and if he doesn't care, just leave. He'll say things like "i have other girls waiting for me" because he knows that is a way to make you stay. He's trying to make you want him more and be more attached to him. What an asshole. i hope you find someone better. Goodluck.

want2knowsoon · Answer

Stand up.  Be firm.  Think about your kids.  Know that you will find someone better.  
If he says that their are tons of other girls waiting for him, then tell him to go have fun with those other girls....
seriously though, what do you think of your kids if you'll pay attention to a guy like this instead of them-
Read this article on how to break up with him if you need some tips- it helped me out a lot
http://wehow.ehow.com/how_2003063_execute-easy-breakup.html

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