why do i feel uncomfortable giving joint gifts from myself and my fiance to my family??? normal?

I look at it like this.When u get married u will lose all your rights in doing something alone.So u need to stand your ground and do this for u.Plus explain to her what u just said to us. If she doesn't understand then u need to really evaluate your relationship with her. I mean if she is this troubled about something this small then what happens when u two have real problems.I wish u all the luck.

Could you give a gift as a couple,

and a more personal gift from just yourself?

Help your fiancee understand it's nothing personal, if she still decides to believe you're up to no good, let her know that's not your intent. Sorry you cannot choose how someone is going to respond to what you say and/or do. She's just going to have to learn by experience that it is not your intent to dump her simply because you want to give a gift of your own to your family.

You are a couple now. do the joint gifts to make her feel part of your family. Not allowing it will make her feel like an outsider.

Gifts are personal, they should reflect how you personally feel towards the person, I think you should explain it to her. She should understand it. If not she needs to work on her own insecurities. Let her buy them her own gifts - if she desires to stay in and on their good side, this could help her, with them and even with you.

Stand your ground but break it down exactly how you just did now.