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How do I dicipline a 15 year-old boy?

My mother recently moved a few hours away and left my 15 year-old brother in my care as to not take him out of school half-way through the school year. He and I have been very close his entire life, and have a great friendship. My trouble is, that I'm not a diciplinarian and have a hard time saying no as I feel guilty for not allowing him to do certian things. I am NOT a mother. I have chosen not to be a mother as I am more of a carreer gal, therfore, I have no idea what I'm doing? Can anyone (maybe a parent of a teen) offer me any advice on how to not feel so gulity, but still be firm with him? I also want him to feel like I am his friend and he can come to me, not like I am his mother.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    It is difficult to give you advice. Take control. Be a leader. Set with him reasonable rules. Let him tell you how to take correctional measures if he tresspasses. You are close to him tell him straight to the face what is acceptable to you and what is not. Do not nag him. The best leaders usually renders support and guidance. Please do not be a supersoft motherly type. Earn respect by being his leader logically, but reasonable. If nothing else help sen him back to mother. See it as a challenge not a burden. Good luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    Okay, first off, I am no where near the age to even become a mother. I'm a teenager myself, so I know what's most effective. It sort of depends what he's interested in. For example, if he's addicted to his computer, no computer for a certain time. But don't ever say "You're grounded" or something like that, because that will honestly get you no where. Also -- don't make some regular, day-to-day things a punishment. If he does something bad, you shouldn't tell him he has to clean or do extra homework. That's like telling him it's a punishment, and he should hate it. And for your guilty-ness, I suggest you don't worry. If you act more like a friend then his mother discipline won't be as hard.

  • 1 decade ago

    If your not his mother you are going to have a hard time especially since you are a sibling. You need to have a process set up with your mother or another nearby adult that he respects. So when things happen you can turn to them for help

    I am the mother of two boys one 13 and one 6 If my oldest tries to disipline the youngest there is resentment and anger. you need as i said help from an outside adult that your brother respects. do some questioning and searching

  • alia
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    that's irresponsible. Yeah, he's inquiring for condoms yet she might desire to be advising him that there is quite some time for intercourse and to be an adolescent and concentration on college and friends. It feels like she wasn't extremely attracted to elevating him, in any case, when you consider that he's not even living at living house precise now. regrettably, there are a number of females people who only "supply up" on their youngsters with the aid of fact that's TOO stressful to discipline them or they're too busy with their very own egocentric existence sort... and that's what that's: egocentric. the respond is that it is not parenting in any respect and human beings like that could desire to the two shop their legs closed contained in the 1st place or enable others to undertake the toddlers they do no longer prefer to strengthen extremely of screwing up the toddlers and unleashing them on society that way.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You have to be firm and set rules with definite consequences..Different things work for different kids grounding, taking away things he likes..For me at that age paddling worked..my older sister did it a few times..now I am closer to her than to any of my other siblings.

  • 1 decade ago

    You cannot be a friend and a diciplinarian too. You need to set ground rules. If he abides by them then he can have more freedom, if not you need to act at once or he will walk all over you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    By teaching his mother to spell

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    chains and whips was theo nly thing that worked for my son...

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