Should I Consider Changing My Wedding Plans (the date)?

I dont think that there is any problem of it being in the same year. I mean its not like a year has only 1 month in it :P. And besides, your would be in spring, and hers in winter ( if u have winter in nov), thats like almost 6 months. Half a year!. Just have a talk with your cousin, just to make it 100% sure that she is ok with it which im sure she would be. Then there is no problem. Besta luck, and congrats :)

I could see your mom not wanting you to get married within a month or two before or after her wedding because that's asking a lot of family to travel and buy gifts. But if you're wanting to get married in the spring (March - May), technically getting married in 2007 means the wedding would be further from your cousin's wedding than waiting til 2008. I say that if you can plan your wedding for March - May 2007, go for it; if not, wait til the next spring, but go on and let family know that it's coming so that they don't get blindsided.

I think I can understand your mother's way of thinking a little bit. The cost incurred by family members that are traveling for a wedding will be doubled for the year, but for most people that wouldn't bother them. As long as there is sufficient time between the weddings for the guests pocketbooks to recuperate, why worry. To ease the burden on guests that are traveling, ask that they don't bring gifts, because being there is the greatest gift they could give.

Get married when you plan to get married, your plans will not interfere with your cousins. But if your mother truly is distressed by the thought of 2 weddings in one year, call your cousin and ask her how she feels about it.

It may not just be your mother, but someone else may have expressed some concern. And if it was your cousin, the only way to find out is to talk to her and say, hey my mother thinks that I should change the date of my wedding because............

If your cousin has any feelings about it, she will hopefully say, get married when you planned to .

In the end, this is what it comes down to. It is your special day and your future hubby, not anyone elses. Do what your heart tells you is right. Good luck

My SISTER and I got married a mere 3 months apart from each other. I think your mother is being just a little paranoid over the "closeness" of your wedding to your cousin's. If her wedding will be in November, and yours in March or April (I'd avoid May due to graduations, Mother's Day, etc.), that's 7 or 8 MONTHS apart. I honestly don't see how that's an undue burden for anyone in the family. Have your wedding when YOU want to have it.

My husband has a million cousins and one of them got married 2 months before us. She was getting married in January, but when she found out we were getting married in October, she moved hers up. No big deal.. Spring is far enough away from November. This should not be a problem at all. Congratulations, and have a wonderful wedding!

Tell your Mother that you want to get married in 2007 and you would love her help/input...but what year you get married isn't debateable. It's YOUR special time. Get married when you want to get married and don't let anyone pressure you into doing anything different. If you let your Mom decide what is in "bad taste" when it comes to your wedding, then you are opening the door for her to decide what is and isn't appropriate for you for the rest of your life. Don't give in!!! Stand strong and marry when you want to. If she has such a problem, then she doesn't have to be there.

What happens down the road if you become pregnant around the time your cousin does? Is Mom going to feel that is in bad taste, too?

You go ahead and plan your wedding for when you want it to be. So what if both weddings are in the same year. My sister and I are both getting married next year, 6 months apart. Neither of us has a problem with getting married in the same year. And our parents are ecstatic. They could care less when our weddings are, as long as we're both happy.

Ultimately, that's all that really matters - that you and your fiance are both happy.

Congrats!!

If you are planning a spring wedding and hers is in Nov., all is okay, because that's a big enough spread for family, etc. to travel, buy gifts,... There is nothing wrong with cousins getting married the same year - it would be different for sisters.

Honestly - what is the difference if you get married this spring or next spring? Either way, your weddings are only months apart. I woudl not worry about getting married in the same year - it's a long year, and your weddings are half a year apart - so there is nothing tacky about it:)

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