Am I interpreting this right?

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I went out to lunch with a man I'd met through work and I've been left wondering exactly why one part of the conversation got brought up.

It began with talking of work, and school, and what we'll both do after graduation this spring. Then, kinda out of left field since it didn't fit in with the topic before it, he says "This might sound off the wall, but I'm really not looking for a girlfriend now... I'm looking for a girl to settle down with, marry and eventually have children" 

It ended up starting a good conversation about our big goals in life when it comes to marriage and family.

That said... I'm having wondering if any of the men out there would ever say that in a conversation just for conversation's sake?

Oh...err... and he mentioned how his ideal partner would be a teacher, because of the personality traits found in the job and it's compatibilty with family life. (guess my chosen profession..) It really didn't sound creepy at the time. Promise.

PinoyC · Accepted Answer

I think it was more or a warning or statement of intent.  From what you're saying I think that you're in college and most students are just looking for a short term fling with any pretty girl/guy that comes along for.."amusement".  He's telling you that to say that he doesn't want that...however, I've seen guys just say that to get into a girls pants.  Find out his history on the matter and it'll be up to you to decide his motives.

delmaanna67 · Answer

Sounds like he might be considering you as a prospective marriage partner. He sounds like an upfront kind of guy.  The fact that you two discussed your big goals in life concerning marriage and family makes it sound like he was feeling you out for unity with him in those goals.

Sparky · Answer

I don't get what was creepy.  Sounds pretty straight forward to me.  I think he is contemplating dating and courting.  Somewhat more of an academic approach to marriage than most take, but might prove to make a more compatible match.

Ace A · Answer

without more information, he either was hinting/testing to see if you'd be a good match romantically or was trying to discreetely make sure you knew he's not interested? hard to tell w/o more info, hope this helps

s p · Answer

try not to overread it, he may just be making conversation.. he may be just sure of what he wants and would rather not waste time... just dont overanylize...sounds like a good catch, dont overthink him away

devil_queen_biatch14 · Answer

u sure are

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