My fiance of 22 yrs wont keep a job...what should I do?

I'm a truck driver, since 1990 and I have made over $80,000 a year for the last ten years. Increasing every year.The trucking industry is so understaffed that companies are begging for people and are so desperate that many offer $4,000+ sign-on bonuses and will pay you to train you. If he's not working...it's because of him. I can barely get a day off. I have switched companies...but maybe every 5 years or so...not 5 months.

I feel sorry for you, but I'm job hunting myself in an area that hasn't really been economically prosperous. I'm very good with Mac computers, but no one seems to be hiring. I've been hunting for about a month and a half now, even the places that aren't looking for computer help.

At first I was only looking for long range jobs, but I still want something to support myself in the meantime so I'm looking for part time jobs as well. Maybe he can do this as well. It's something, but by working part time he can look for something long term. I signed up with a temp agency that has helped me in the past too. Has he done this or considered it? What are all his skills? Can he do any type of office work or is he favorable to blue collar, more physical work? Even if he does blue collar stuff, maybe he can use the experience toward something else in a similar field. Have you helped him do a resume or job hunt at all? I have my girlfriend's friends looking out for me, and they took the initiative to do that. I never asked them to.

Perhaps truck driving work is temporary, but the pay might be considerate enough for him that he likes it. I hear construction jobs are contractual but the pay is just as good if not better. Maybe he can use his driving skills to do local deliveries for local companies, maybe using a van or smaller vehicle. Brainstorm together and see what you guys come up with. I know you're a little unsatisfied but be glad that he's not simply sitting at home collecting unemployment.

I suppose I would sit down and think for a second... How long have you been w/your soon to be hubby? How long was the gap between the ex and you. How long have you been together? I only ask due to the fact I was engaged for about 1.5 years and dated for 3 years. If an ex was calling still after 4+ years it was due to the fact my fiance was still talking to him or her. If I had to bet he picks up the phone once in a while. If not then OK, tell your self that. Simply ask your fiance to change his phone number. If needed change the house phone also. Change the email address or w/e else is needed. Trust is hard to build but easy to break. Remember to put each other first and respect each others feelings. If he respects you then he will change the phone or do w/e he needs to do if it will make you feel better. I think you will be OK but you need to be honest and open about your feelings. *edit If I may also add these simple words that will help both of you for many years.... remember to, "Listen to Understand"

Sorry but ANY BODY can drive a semi truck. All you have to do is practice and take the test. I took it and I now have a commercial license but I don't drive one. I think he is just lazy. If he has a commercial license which you have to have to drive a semi, he can find work with any construction company, dirt hauling, Coke cola, Pepsi or beer trucks making deliveries everyday. He can also work for your state's dept of transportation or any company needing drivers. Furniture stores, etc. He doesn't just have to haul across the country or whatever he can find steady work at any of these places and some.

Fiance of 22 years?

You have been engaged 22 years, or he is 22 years old??

If you have been engaged for 22 years: Have you ever seen the play Guys and Dolls? It's really good. In the movie Frank Sinatra ends up deciding to merry his lover after they have been engaged for 10 or 15. Most men won't if you've been engaged over 5. Hes already a loser.

If hes 22 years old: Thats a good skill to have to be that young. When he hits 25, he may grow up and mature. He may not. Grown men are just boys with toys... they don't really change. Do you want your kids to have presents on Christmas when you have (or currently have) babies? He sounds like he'd be a bad daddy.

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Personal experience, my ex-spouse was, and still is like that. Basically, he is unhappy with himself, and until he can like himself, he won't like anyone else, and he will keep losing jobs, and/or keep finding reasons as to why he quit.

He was very good at excuses, and makes them sound very convincing. My opinion is, he is not worth keeping. Find a man who knows what it is to work, and work hard, and has a stable work history, because that is the type of person you need. If he respects himself, he will respect others around him.

Good luck, and I hate to share in the negative consensus.

Truck drivers have all kinds of adds in the paper every week. He is being lazy between jobs. Tell him that you need someone who is going to help you pay the bills. You need that kind of reliability.

no. truck driving is not that unpredictable. u need to break it off or be prepared to pay for him and his mistakes the rest of ur life. or until ur fed up and want a divorce. but then because u were the breadwinner in that relationship he could get alimony from u!

you have 2 choices you can be sole provider for your family and live pay check to paycheck or you can tell him to either keep a job or so long nothing is going down in case you cant tell gas grocerys electric ect is higher the ever and its not going to come back down so you need to make a choice