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what should i do for this?

my boyfriend and i broke up over a month ago because he cheated on me w/ another girl. the day after he did he called me and told me what happened and said he loved me so much and could never forgive himself for what he did to me. i was the only girl he ever cheated on. it's over a month since this happend and he says he still loves me, he hasn't talked to that girl ever since and we've been secretly seeing each other. my parent's would hate me if i went back out with him, but i can't help the way i feel. i love him and miss him so much, and i hate feeling like i can't do anything about it. please give me some advice on what to do. thank you.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    aww it's like romeo and juliet since your parents dont want you to see him.

    true love cant be stopped..

    and he obviously loves you.

    he probably feels really bad about what he did.

    just dont tell your parents..

    if you really love him..then dont let your parents shouldnt stand in the way!!

  • 1 decade ago

    The first thing you need to do is make sure that you and your boyfriend can trust each other after this incident. If you love and care about him just as much as you say you do, be with him. I know that it's hard when your parents decides that you cannot be with a guy (I've been through that), but it's still your life. I think that you should sit down and talk to your parents and let them know that you guys are back together. I know that you hate to do it, but just as your boyfriend has gained the trust of you again, your parents have to have your trust. Even though your parents may feel like they are making the right choice(unless this guy is totally irresponsible), they have to let you live your life and learn from your own mistakes. I'm not saying that you are making a mistake because I don't know you. All I'm saying is that whatever age you are, your parents were once there. They've got to let you learn things for yourself. Anyways, honey you should just talk to your parents, or even write a letter if you are scared to talk, and let them know how you feel. You have got to communicate with them.

  • 1 decade ago

    You never know, he is only human and we all make mistakes. His was a DUMB mistake though. He can change but you have to be willing to let go of what happened in the past...also do keep in mind that once a cheater, always a cheater. If I were you, I would have a hard time trusting him! That could lead to a lot of fights. Plus, it would be tough to sneak around all the time because of your parents. The best I can say is to make a judgement that you can live with.

  • 1 decade ago

    if he cheated once. he'll do it again. its time to leave him and find someone else. if he truly loved u he wouldn't have done it in the first place. personally i would never cheat on a girl i'm with. no one wants to be cheated on. by going back to him. ur not really doing anything but giving him the OK signal to go out and cheat again. since there's a precedent that as long as he tells u about it and tell u how much he loves u. ur just gonna take him back again.

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  • 1 decade ago

    You are actually going through what I'm going through.

    We just broke up today because I found out he cheated on me. And yes it does hurt he was the first guy I ever love and fell in love with and he said the same to me.

    But I had to do what I had to do. Its going to hurt for awhile but u deserve better. Remember one thing, once a cheater always a cheater even if it was his first time. Don't be dumb and fall for his words, I did that so many times with mine and I'm so stupid for it I thought it would get better but it never did. You need to break it off cause in the end it'll just hurt even worst just me good luck girl.

    If you need someone to talk to email me at hclover21@yahoo.com that if you need someone to talk to.

  • 1 decade ago

    Looks like you already know what to do. You're seeing him, so that must mean you forgive him. Parents sometimes see what children don't see. You should listen to and consider what your parents have to say, to see if it makes any sense to you. Use protection, you don't want to get anything, or pregnant in the meantime.

  • 1 decade ago

    You can do whatever you want. Since this was his first and supposedly only time, you could give him another chance, but he may or may not do it again. If you really feel strongly about him then give it another try. Good Luck and I hope all turns out well.

  • 1 decade ago

    well go wiht what you think is right, your parents are not the ones dating him, boys say a lot of stuff to get back wiht a girl and the hardest thing to do is believeing what they say so if you really trust him and believe him that he wiil not hurt you anymore than i say go wiht your heart, i mean if you really love this guy there should be nothing to stand infront of that.. go for it and be happy thats the most important thing is be happy dont worry what other people say be happy..... good luck and i hope it works out for the best wiht oyu and him

  • 1 decade ago

    Well You shouldn't care what you parents think, just as long as your happy.If you really love him then give him one more chance.

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